Updated: Aug. 2, 2016
Originally Published: May 16, 2013
As I reflect on the physical changes that accompany motherhood, particularly in my middle-aged years, I find myself grappling with the dual nature of stress-induced appetite loss. Surprisingly, this stress has led to an accidental weight loss, allowing me to shed three-quarters of the 10 pounds I aimed to lose. I’ve playfully shared with friends that if this stress could continue just a bit longer, I’d reach my goal weight with ease.
Indeed, my clothes are fitting differently now, some even feeling loose, and I was thrilled to fit into my “skinny jeans” once again. However, these aren’t just any jeans; they are a reminder of a time nearly a decade ago when I was at my leanest, a weight also influenced by stress. The memory of calling a close friend in sheer excitement about my upcoming wedding and the jeans I had bought in size 26 is still vivid. Her enthusiastic response was, “Wow, that is exciting,” but I can’t help but notice that my body now tells a different story.
At 37, after two C-sections spaced just 16 months apart and a hysterectomy, my body has transformed. Following the births of my average-sized children, who both contributed to an unusual amount of amniotic fluid, my abdomen resembles a deflated balloon. In a bid to remain positive about this midsection, I jokingly refer to the area between my bra and waistband as my “bonus features.” It’s akin to discovering unrequested extras on a DVD—unexpected but included nonetheless.
You might wonder if losing weight would help diminish these so-called bonus features. Shouldn’t there be some reduction in the love handles or a sleeker appearance around my belly button? According to my husband, who thoughtfully chimed in during our morning discussion, perhaps my weight is simply “distributed differently now.” However, I can’t shake the feeling that my middle-aged midsection remains unimproved.
Over the years, I’ve made half-hearted attempts to target this area. Despite my aversion to exercise, I once borrowed a post-pregnancy workout DVD from a friend. My husband’s involuntary snort when the instructor mentioned resuming workouts after a six-week clearance was a stark reminder of how long it had been since my youngest child was that age.
Could this be my new reality? The days of feeling confident in a bikini may be behind me, and belly-baring tops are likely off the table. If I’m honest, there’s a tinge of resentment—an emotion that suggests I’ve been shortchanged. Yet, the joy my children bring me, now 5 and 6 years old, makes these changes more palatable. At least I can still appreciate that my backside appears to be holding up well.
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In summary, while the physical changes of motherhood can be frustrating, they also come with profound rewards. Embracing the journey, with all its ups and downs, is essential as we navigate the complexities of middle-aged parenting.
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