I proudly consider myself a feminist. Unfortunately, over the past three decades, feminism has been negatively portrayed, often evoking an image of a militant figure who harbors animosity towards men. Let me clarify: I am none of those things. My envy lies not in anatomy but in financial equity. In my perspective, feminism embodies the belief that women and men deserve equal treatment across all facets of life.
I am fortunate to be married to a partner who treats me as an equal. If we appear to adhere to certain gender roles—he works while I manage the children—it is not a reflection of my worth but rather a practical decision that makes sense for our family.
This morning, while engaging in the mundane task of grocery shopping, I encountered a downpour. As I navigated from my car, I juggled an umbrella, a 20-pound baby in his carrier, and the hand of my three-year-old. Upon nearing the entrance of the store, I noticed an older gentleman, perhaps in his sixties, standing idly by the door, staring at me. Naturally, I anticipated that he would open the door, assuming that common courtesy would prevail. (Note to self: Never assume.) He remained unmoved. As I prepared to set my baby carrier down in the rain, I muttered an ironic, “Thanks for getting the door.” To my surprise, he retorted, “I thought ladies didn’t want doors opened for them anymore.”
Touché, sir. My desire for assistance is not based on my gender but on the fact that I was struggling. Good manners transcend gender and are rooted in basic human decency. When women began advocating for equal rights, some men misconstrued this as a rejection of civility. In reality, the call for equality does not negate the need for kindness.
As a parent of three sons, I find it crucial to instill in them the distinction between rescuing a damsel and simply being considerate. Common decency did not vanish with the suffrage movement, and I firmly believe that whether it’s an elderly person or a strapping young man, if you arrive at the door first, you should hold it open—this is just good manners.
My children may sometimes act like little rascals, engaging in antics like launching surprise farts at each other, forgetting their lunch bags, or bickering over meals. However, they will also understand the importance of extending a helping hand to those in need. Those are the kind of rascals I want to raise.
For more insights on the significance of good manners in children, check out our article on the essential reasons all children should practice good etiquette.
In conclusion, embracing feminism does not diminish the value of courtesy. It is essential to foster a culture of kindness and respect, regardless of gender, while raising the next generation to be both aware and compassionate. For additional information on topics related to family planning and home insemination, you can visit Make a Mom and also explore NHS’s resources regarding pregnancy and home insemination.
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