In January of this year, Florida became the 36th state to legalize same-sex marriage, a milestone that my partner, Alex, and I eagerly embraced. After eight years of building our lives together—buying a home, merging our finances, and raising our wonderful child—this moment was monumental for us. Unlike traditional weddings filled with elaborate floral arrangements and scripted ceremonies, our wedding was spontaneous and driven by our excitement to finally be recognized as a family. Here’s why our marriage experience stood out:
11. No Planning Required
Traditional weddings often take months or even years of meticulous planning, from choosing the perfect venue to organizing guest lists. For us, it was simple: a Facebook post announced, “Meet us at the courthouse in three days! We’re getting married!” We even had a surprise officiant show up!
10. We Were Not Alone
Most marriages can feel isolating, but not ours. We were surrounded by a community of couples celebrating along with us. It felt reassuring to share this pivotal moment with so many others—after all, if everyone else is jumping into marriage, it must be for a good reason!
9. Our Child Was Involved
Traditional weddings often have a peculiar timeline—how can you celebrate a union before your family is complete? Thankfully, being a same-sex couple allowed us to raise our child well before tying the knot. Our son, Liam, was a central part of our day, making it all the more special.
8. It Was Inexpensive
Weddings can be exorbitantly costly, with expenses for attire, venues, and catering adding up quickly. Our costs were minimal: rings, a new outfit, and we were good to go.
7. Law Enforcement Was Present
Instead of strippers, we had actual police officers in attendance—though they didn’t take off their uniforms, which was a small disappointment. Regardless, their presence added a layer of legitimacy to our celebration.
6. Midnight Ceremony
Who gets married at 12:01 AM on a Tuesday? We did! There’s something rebelliously cool about that, a nod to the unconventional nature of our union.
5. Government Office Venue
Our wedding took place in a government office, making it unique. Think of it as a blend of bureaucratic efficiency and pride. We navigated through metal detectors, got our number, and waited our turn in a room that felt like a mix between the DMV and a celebration of love.
4. Notable Attendees
Did the county clerk and sheriff attend your wedding? Ours did! Their presence made our special day feel even more significant.
3. Shared Anniversary
We now share our anniversary with thousands of other couples in Florida, creating a unique bond. It’s a day that resonates with love and equality, reminding us of the fight for our rights.
2. Cherished Friends
We were delighted to celebrate alongside two amazing friends, Emma and Kate, who have been instrumental in our journey. Our son has an extended family, and their support enriches our lives.
1. Love Is What Matters
Ultimately, the foundation of our marriage is love. While it may not be “better” than anyone else’s, the outpouring of support we received from family and friends made it truly remarkable. As LGBTQ+ individuals, we often face unique challenges, but the joy of being recognized and celebrated for our love was overwhelming.
In summary, our wedding didn’t follow the traditional mold, but it felt richer and more meaningful because of the community support, the inclusiveness, and the love that surrounded us on that day. We had to fight for this marriage, and perhaps that makes it even more special.
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