As the back-to-school season approaches, it feels reminiscent of January—a time for new commitments and fresh goals. Each year, I find myself making the same promises: punctuality for school, never misplacing permission slips, and preparing lunches the night before. This year, however, I’m ready to introduce some new resolutions, armed with the wisdom that comes with experience.
1. I will embrace the power of NO.
Having navigated 12 consecutive years with children in various school levels, I no longer feel the pressure to volunteer for every committee or event. The eager, first-time kindergarten mom in me has been replaced by a seasoned parent who knows her limits. My peers, those of us in the 40-plus age bracket, often retreat to the sidelines, content to let the enthusiastic younger parents take charge. We’ve learned to shed the guilt associated with declining requests for help. So, dear overzealous parents, go ahead and organize those class parties—my friends and I are opting for some well-deserved relaxation.
2. I will allow my children to take charge of their morning routine.
I know it sounds ambitious, but I’m determined to step back and let my kids manage their own mornings. I realize that my relentless involvement has created chaos, often turning me into a morning monster. This year, I’m challenging myself to keep quiet and trust that my children can wake up, prepare themselves, and be ready to head out without my intervention. It’s a leap of faith, but I believe they can handle it—even if it might take until Halloween for this to stick!
3. I will support my high schoolers’ dreams, not my own.
As my oldest entered high school, I had a vision of the ideal academic path for him. However, I soon discovered that he is fully capable of determining his own interests and aspirations. He might not pursue the advanced math classes I envisioned, but he is discovering his passion for teaching and literature. Moving forward, I will respect his choices and let him forge his own path, understanding that his interests may evolve over time.
4. I will refrain from assisting with school projects.
It’s quite easy to spot when a parent has taken over a child’s school project. I’ve learned to resist the urge to swoop in and save the day when my kids cry out for help with science fairs or history projects. With four children, I’ve developed a strong resistance to last-minute pleas for assistance. Instead of jumping in, I’m going to let them face the consequences, allowing them to learn from their experiences. After all, a poor grade now could lead to valuable lessons in responsibility later on.
5. I will cherish my youngest child’s elementary years.
While I may feel fatigued by the school routine, I want to ensure my youngest child doesn’t feel the weight of my exhaustion. Unlike his older siblings, he deserves the same enthusiasm and support during his school years. I vow to participate fully in his experiences, whether it’s cheering at his Christmas play or crafting Valentine’s cards together. I’m dedicated to making his school moments as special as those I celebrated with his older brothers.
In summary, as I embark on this new school year, I’m setting these resolutions to embrace self-care, foster independence in my children, and savor the fleeting moments of their early education. Each resolution aims to create a more balanced and enjoyable experience for both myself and my children.
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