By: Emma Thompson
I often picture my five-year-old, Lily, in her toddler bed each morning, strategizing ways to make our preschool drop-off as difficult as possible for me. Perhaps she contemplates, “Should I go for dramatic clinginess today or just act completely indifferent? Or maybe I’ll embarrass Mom by mentioning her unfortunate flatulence during TV time right in front of the teachers.” It seems there’s a sinister plan behind her antics designed to maximize my emotional distress.
Lily has attended the same preschool three days a week for the past two and a half years, with the same beloved teachers. Yet, each day, I approach drop-off unsure of what to expect. Is she going to display an overwhelming love for me, clinging desperately as if she can’t bear to be apart? Or is she going to act as if my presence is utterly inconsequential? The uncertainty is exhausting.
Mondays: The Toughest Day
Mondays are particularly brutal. I’ve navigated this routine long enough to consider myself an experienced drop-off parent. I adhere to the rules: I’m firm but kind, and I refrain from showing any sadness. “I won’t cry today!” she announces confidently during our drive.
“Fantastic!” I reply, skeptical after hearing this proclamation every Monday for two hundred weeks. “Neither of us will cry because we know we’ll reunite soon, and I have thrilling errands planned!” I say, attempting to elevate mundane tasks to a grand adventure.
The moment I turn to leave, however, I see her face crumple. It’s as if she believes that if she cries hard enough, I’ll change my mind. “But you love school!” I implore, as she wraps her limbs around my leg like a determined octopus. When the inevitable tears flow and she whimpers, “But I’ll miss you,” my instinct is to scoop her up and flee. Yet, her sweet teacher manages to peel her off me, and with a heavy heart, I close the door behind them.
Despite the emotional toll, I persist in bringing her to preschool because I recognize its importance for her development—and I need a little time to recharge myself.
Wednesdays: Bribery Rejuvenation Day
Wednesdays have become my “Bribery Rejuvenation Day.” “I absolutely won’t cry if you bring me zucchini bread after school,” she declares.
“Am I really resorting to bribery now?” I ponder, questioning how long she’s been plotting this little manipulation. “I think it’ll work,” she confidently states. Admittedly, I sometimes cave and bring her homemade zucchini bread—judge me all you want! Anything to avoid the heartache I feel on Mondays.
Fridays: The Indifference
By Friday, she barely acknowledges my presence. She strides into the classroom, immediately engrossed in an art project, as if I’m invisible. “Can I at least get a high-five or a nod?” I ask, yearning for some recognition after all those sleepless nights and sacrifices. I mean, I spent nine months avoiding alcohol and deli meat for this? While I’m relieved she’s not sobbing, a bit of acknowledgment would be nice.
Often, at home, I try to discuss my feelings about drop-off with her, but it’s unclear if either of us benefits from these conversations. She insists I should bribe her with treats more often, while I wish she wouldn’t toy with my emotions like a skilled musician. I know I’m probably mishandling the situation, but for now, bribery seems like my best option.
Looking Ahead
Next year, when she starts kindergarten, she’ll be taking the bus.
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Summary
Preschool drop-off can be a daily emotional rollercoaster for parents, particularly when faced with unpredictable behaviors from their children. Despite the heart-wrenching moments, the importance of preschool for a child’s development cannot be overstated. Strategies such as bribery may help ease the transition, but the complex feelings around separation remain a common struggle for many parents.
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