One of my go-to memes is that classic image of a dog sitting at a table, sipping tea while the room around him is engulfed in flames. With a goofy grin on his face, he says, “This is fine.” And honestly, I can’t help but laugh—it hits home for me as a mom of two little ones, feeling like I’m constantly fighting little fires all day long. I wake up to the sound of kids crying, and I lie down to the same soundtrack. It’s like trying to herd cats, and let’s be real—it’s exhausting.
I’m not complaining, though. This is the life I dreamed of. I always wanted to be a mom, and I love my kids to bits. But like many moms, I often find myself running on empty, emotionally drained, and mentally stretched thin. It’s a strange balance: my heart is full, yet I sometimes feel like I’m on the verge of losing it. And that makes it tough to answer when people ask how I’m doing.
So, How Am I Doing?
Well, let’s see. I’ve been averaging about four hours of sleep for the past few years, and I can’t remember the last time I had a proper shower. This morning, my largest pair of jeans wouldn’t even button, and guess what? The baby just had a blowout in her car seat.
How am I doing? I tried cleaning that mess with a Starbucks napkin, but it ripped. I could’ve used a wet wipe, but the last one went to removing a big dried booger from my purse. Life is full of poop and boogers, isn’t it?
How am I doing? My partner and I feel like ships passing in the night, high-fiving like tag team parents as we tackle the chaos of raising our kids. By the time we crash into bed, we’re too tired to even talk, let alone be intimate. After a day spent covered in all sorts of mess, who feels sexy?
The Financial Stress
And let’s not forget the financial stress of a family of four. Each morning, I wake up knowing that these little humans depend on me for everything—keeping them safe, wiping their butts, and yes, even saving for college. Just saying the word “college” sends chills down my spine.
But Really, How Am I Doing?
Do you genuinely want to know? I’m fine.
Yet, “fine” has taken on a whole new meaning. Ask any mom what “I’m fine” means, and she’ll tell you. “Fine” translates to living the dream life we’ve always wanted, but it comes with its challenges. We understand the immense privilege of being responsible for these little souls, yet it can feel overwhelmingly heavy at times. “Fine” means recognizing that the person looking back at us in the mirror is a stranger because so much has changed. But this is what we wished for; this is the life we chose.
“Fine” also means that motherhood is incredibly tough. From the outside, it may look like our lives are in chaos, and honestly, they are. But despite the struggles, we are grateful. “Fine” is how we connect to that little dog in the picture, sitting in the flames with a goofy grin. Because this wild, exhausting life is everything we ever wanted. This is where we belong, and we’re totally fine with it.
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In Summary
Being a mom is a beautiful yet challenging journey, filled with ups and downs. We often respond with “I’m fine,” which encompasses a world of meaning—joy, exhaustion, and a whole lot of love.
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