Just a little note from your favorite mom and wife, Sarah. I want you to know that my love for you all is off the charts. Seriously, I’d go to the ends of the earth for each of you. But let’s be real—something needs to shift, and it needs to happen pretty quickly.
So, what’s up with that?
I know you think I can juggle it all, and most of the time, I do! But I could really use your help. I can’t keep being the one who does everything.
And just to be fair, you guys are pretty fantastic. You all pitch in with walking the dog (even if we have to negotiate first), doing the dishes, taking out the trash (mostly without me asking), and even doing laundry (sometimes just your own). You help with your siblings, clean up messes (like that broken Worcestershire sauce—thank you!), smoke salmon (yum), and manage to make me laugh. You also water the flowers, support my blog, and give me time to hang out with my friends (without you). Honestly, I’m so lucky!
But every now and then, all of that just isn’t enough. I need you to realize that, despite all the good stuff you do, sometimes it falls short. I hate to say it, but it’s true.
The Mental Load
There’s been a lot of talk about the mental load women carry, and it hit me hard. You’re all great at helping when I ask, but sometimes I don’t want to have to ask. I don’t want to pick up another spoon or yogurt container from the side table. I don’t want to remind you one more time to put your shoes away or to take out the compost. I’m tired of being the one who has to remember to call in prescriptions or make the grocery list.
And goodness, I really don’t want to be the one who wipes down the counters again or who has to get a glass of milk as soon as I sit down. It’s just soooo exhausting! I know you all can do more.
But more importantly, I need you to see me. I need you to look past the “supermom” facade and recognize that I might not always be fine, even if I say I am. I mean, I am usually okay, but I’m often balancing on the edge, especially if you’re not paying attention.
I’ve learned to live with a ton of stress, and truth be told, most days I’m pretty anxious. But I’ve also gotten really good at faking it. And that’s how I roll. Most of the time, it works so well that you probably don’t even notice when I’m about to crack. No matter what mayhem is happening—sick pets, sick kids, or a million other things—I’m the one who keeps it together. But wow, it’s tiring!
A Little Request
So here’s my little request to all you capable beings living under my roof: Next time you need something, take a moment to look at me before you ask for that one little thing. Think about what’s going on in my life. Remember that behind this supermom mask, I might just be hanging by a thread.
And for heaven’s sake, if you can manage that one little task on your own, please just do it! Let’s give your supermom a break.
Resources for Family Planning
By the way, if you’re considering starting a family, check out Make a Mom’s sperm donor matching group. They offer some amazing resources! And if you’re curious about at-home insemination, take a peek at Make a Mom, which provides the only reusable option available. Their how it works page is super informative too! If you’re looking for an impregnator at-home insemination kit, they have that covered. Plus, their 21-piece at-home insemination kit is pretty great as well. If you want more expert info, Hopkins Medicine is an excellent resource for all things pregnancy and home insemination.
Love you all!
Summary:
This heartfelt message from Mom highlights her love for her family while expressing the need for more support at home. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing her workload and encourages her family to take initiative instead of relying solely on her. Resources for family planning and at-home insemination are also shared for those considering starting a family.
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