When I was expecting, folding tiny clothes and sanitizing pacifiers, I often pondered what motherhood would be like. However, I never considered the kind of friendships I’d need as a new mom. I didn’t realize how much my relationships would shift once I had kids, or that my child-free friends might struggle to understand the exhaustion of sleepless nights with a fussy baby, or how girls’ nights would take a backseat for a while.
Becoming a mom often leads you to seek out a new tribe—people who are navigating the same chaos and joy that you are. Sometimes, the new moms you meet at the playground or coffee shop fill the void left by old friends. Those women at mommy-and-me groups, looking just as lost and bewildered as you feel, can be the most comforting sight. Their expressions say, “You’re not alone.”
Cliques don’t vanish after high school or college; they persist in the workplace and seep into motherhood, too. If you’re fortunate, you find your squad. I quickly recognized the kind of moms I wanted in my life, but it takes time to discover those souls who love you in all your chaotic glory. Let’s be honest, we’re all a little messy at times, and I’d much rather hang out with a mom squad that embraces that reality.
Motherhood can be tough, and I don’t need to hear from another mom in the same boat about how she has it all figured out while I’m struggling to keep my hairbrush from becoming a toy. No thanks!
Here’s what I’m looking for in my mom crew:
- You get pumped about a trip to Target, whether it’s to snag a new feather duster or a steam cleaner. Sometimes we even treat ourselves to lattes while we shop. Chatting in the car while munching on a stale pretzel? That totally counts as a night out for us.
- You recognize the little joys in life—like when I bring you flowers from my garden and a card my kids made for your birthday. Those gestures mean the world.
- You’re too busy worrying about your own kids’ antics to criticize other moms. Seriously, you couldn’t care less about what Susan is wearing, what she feeds her kids, or how often she volunteers.
- You vibe with my music taste, and you don’t judge me for my kids knowing all the lyrics to Chainsmokers songs.
- You lean on me when you need support and never hide what’s going on in your life out of fear of losing our friendship. There’s no pretense between us; you love me without any masks.
- You keep my secrets. I can share my wild dreams about that guy from high school, and you won’t spill. But you’ll definitely text me when you spot him at the grocery store! And in turn, I want to hear about your latest fights with your husband or those snarky comments from your mother-in-law.
- You give me honest advice when I ask for it. No sugarcoating—just the real deal. If it’s not going to be okay, you’ll help me see things from a different angle because you genuinely care.
- You are unapologetically yourself—raw, beautiful, and real. You don’t conform because you know your worth, and in doing so, you inspire me to be my authentic self too. Together, we can be the moms—and women—we aspire to be.
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In summary, motherhood is a wild ride, and finding a supportive mom squad that understands the real you makes all the difference. Let’s embrace our messy, beautiful lives together.
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