I never envisioned myself as a hovering parent. If you had asked me during my pregnancy how I would raise my kids, I would have painted a carefree picture: my children playing barefoot in the grass, climbing trees, and enjoying scraped knees while drinking from the garden hose. I imagined quick PB&J lunches followed by afternoon adventures on their bikes, just like I did as a child. I was certain about one thing—I would not be the overprotective type.
I always admired those parents who allowed their kids to roam freely, like carefree little birds. Even now, I find myself pacing at the playground, watching their kids confidently swing from the monkey bars. While the relaxed parents sit on benches sharing laughs, I’m positioned below my son, anxiously monitoring his every move.
These laid-back moms seem unfazed by the scrapes and bruises that come with childhood. They’ve embraced the inherent risks that accompany growing up. I’ve always aspired to be one of them, yet the reality is far different. I find myself hovering—constantly. If there were a tier beyond helicopter mom, I would likely hold that title.
When Grandma offers to buckle my kids into their car seats, I can’t help but chime in about chest clip placements, and I follow closely behind to check the tightness of the straps. If my kids are invited to a playdate and grapes are served, I’m the one swooping in to slice them in half—and maybe even into quarters, just to be extra cautious.
During playtime, if my oldest is with his younger sister, I’m right there, anxiously barking warnings. “Be gentle! Don’t pull her arm! Be careful climbing on that toy—she could get hurt!”
Though I envisioned my kids as fearless little adventurers, I find that my nerves just can’t handle it. I’m not the free-range mom; I’m the “spotter mom,” always ready to leap in and prevent accidents.
My friends and family find it amusing. They can’t comprehend how the most easygoing person in our circle transformed into this overzealous mom whose four-year-old must eat grapes only in quarter slices. “MK, relax,” they chuckle. “It’s just a playground. They’re not going to get hurt.”
I feel embarrassed, even ashamed. I wish I could ease up, but it’s not that simple.
When my first child was born, it was as if my mind awakened from a peaceful slumber. Suddenly, the world shifted from a place of joy to one filled with potential dangers. Every car on the road and every round grape became a threat I needed to shield my child from.
As I type this, I recognize how absurd it sounds, yet I can’t help it. My parenting choices stem from deep-seated fears that are hardwired into my brain. I’ve tried to manage this anxiety, but it often feels insurmountable.
Seeing distressing news stories about children choking or being injured only exacerbates my worries. No amount of therapy or medication can silence the relentless replay of these headlines in my mind; they reinforce my fears.
As a result, I find myself on high alert, making decisions that differ from those of other mothers. I know some may view my actions as excessive, and I’m aware of the teasing I receive for it. But the truth is, my children won’t be 18 and still needing their grapes sliced.
The idealized version of myself—relaxed, sipping coffee with friends at the park—clashes with my reality. Anxiety makes it incredibly challenging to be that carefree mom.
For those of us who are naturally anxious, it’s important to remember that our children will grow up just fine. So, please don’t mock my hovering tendencies; it’s simply anxiety at work. I’m doing my best, and that’s all anyone can ask for.
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In summary, while I may not fit the mold of the laid-back parent I once envisioned, my anxiety drives my hover-parenting. It’s a struggle, but I believe it’s what’s necessary for my children’s safety.
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