It happens somewhere between the warrior pose and downward dog. As I push my hips forward and lean into the palms of my hands, an unmistakable sound erupts—like air escaping from a balloon or my young son blowing a raspberry.
At first, I’m taken aback. But then the sound persists. My fellow yogis continue their sun salutations, completely unbothered, while I feel completely frozen. I attempt to clench and squeeze my legs together, but it finds a way out. There I am, in my first yoga class since having my daughter, experiencing the baffling sound of queefing amidst the serene atmosphere. My classmates pretend they haven’t noticed, but there’s no denying it.
What started as shock quickly morphed into embarrassment as the noise returned during plank pose. I wrestled with the urge to laugh, cry, or just bolt from the room. I contemplated never attending another yoga class again, quitting the gym, or even moving states.
For the remainder of the session, I clenched every muscle and avoided making eye contact, until finally, I made a hasty exit. The term “queef” might sound lighthearted, but it actually refers to the release of trapped air from the vagina—a far cry from whimsical, especially when it occurs in a public setting. The medical term for this phenomenon is vaginal flatulence.
Though it can happen to anyone, it is especially prevalent in women post-childbirth due to weakened pelvic floor muscles. It’s a natural occurrence, and perfectly healthy, but like many postpartum challenges, it can be both humiliating and a secret burden. If you haven’t given birth, let me take you on a journey through a few other mortifying yet common postpartum issues that often go unspoken:
- Hemorrhoids: The aftermath of childbirth can lead to painful hemorrhoids that linger long after delivery. The moment you find yourself browsing the hemorrhoid care aisle, you realize you’ve entered a whole new phase of life.
- Hair Loss: Pregnancy and childbirth can wreak havoc on your hair. If you already have fine hair, you might find yourself sporting a rather awkward mullet by two years postpartum.
- Tearing: It’s not surprising that squeezing a baby out can lead to tearing. Many women experience significant tearing, which can take a long time to heal.
- Incontinence: After childbirth, many women face the unfortunate reality of leaking a little when they sneeze, cough, or laugh. This may lead you to explore the adult diaper section of your local store.
- Milk Leakage: While breastfeeding is often described as beautiful, it can also turn your breasts into unpredictable carnival attractions, leaking in public or spraying milk in unexpected directions.
These experiences are common among women after giving birth, yet we rarely discuss them due to embarrassment. Our bodies, which we once knew so well, become unfamiliar and unpredictable, leading to a significant hit to self-esteem.
After my yoga incident, my instinct was to retreat into a shameful silence. As a nurse, I handle all sorts of bodily functions daily, yet I couldn’t bring myself to share my experience with even my closest friends or family.
But it’s essential that we share these stories. Hearing that these occurrences are normal can help ease the shame. While we may still feel embarrassed after an incident like queefing, at least we’ll have others to commiserate with—women ready to share a knowing smile over a glass of wine.
There’s much that changes in our bodies after bringing a child into the world. Some experiences are empowering, while many can feel weird and daunting. If you find yourself on the receiving end of an embarrassing moment, remember that you are not alone.
And if you’re fortunate enough to avoid these challenges, show kindness to the new mom beside you. She may be struggling to feel like her old self, dealing with painful breasts, hair loss, or even hemorrhoids the size of golf balls. If she happens to let out a queef, offer her a little compassion.
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In summary, many women face various postpartum challenges that can feel embarrassing but are completely normal. It’s crucial for us to share our experiences and support one another through these changes.
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