Here’s an interesting tidbit: I haven’t penned a single blog entry focused on marriage since my engagement, and there’s a straightforward reason for that—I feel utterly unqualified to discuss it.
Recently, Alex and I marked our fifth anniversary. Although it may seem like just a small milestone in the vast journey of life, it certainly holds significance.
Curious about what I’ve discovered over these five years of marriage? If you’re still reading, I’ll assume you are.
What I’ve Learned
What I’ve learned during this time is that I really don’t know anything about marriage at all. All those expectations and fairy-tale visions I had regarding what a husband should be like and how I would flourish as a wife turned out to be quite unrealistic.
Now, don’t misunderstand me—maybe you’re in a wonderfully romantic marriage that meets all your dreams. If you’ve been married for several years and that resonates with you, please share your wisdom; I’m eager to learn.
The Hard Lessons
One of the hardest lessons has been accepting that while our love is unconditional, liking each other all the time is a different story (believe me, I’ve tried!). And yes, it goes both ways.
Those “adorable” quirks we cherished during our courtship and early days of marriage can lose their charm over time. We’ve matured and evolved—sometimes for the better, and other times, well, there’s room for improvement.
We’ve faced our share of challenges—some typical, others that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. We’re flawed individuals in an imperfect union. But here we are, five years in. It’s tough, I won’t pretend otherwise.
The Reality of Marriage
It’s not always butterflies and sunshine. It’s not consistently enjoyable, beautiful, or romantic. It’s not always the bliss people talk about. But it’s undeniably REAL.
This man knows every facet of me—the good, the bad, and everything in between. He’s aware of my opinions, my judgments, my insecurities, and my history. He doesn’t always appreciate every aspect he sees, yet he still chooses to be with me each day. And I choose him.
I like to think this understanding of expectation versus reality signifies growth. Perhaps it does. But one thing I know for certain is that after five years of marriage, we’re still navigating this journey together.
The Journey Together
Learning to share life with another individual—someone who has different views, irritations, and passions—is a beautifully complex journey. Love may not always be picturesque, but it is always worthwhile. This guy is worth the struggle; our marriage is worth the challenges.
Each day, we become a little more adept at this marriage thing—gaining wisdom and a more realistic perspective. We laugh, we argue, we love.
This is what marriage looks like after five years, and I would do it all over again. Here’s to the next five, and many more beyond that, my dear.
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In Summary
In summary, marriage is a complex blend of love, challenges, and growth. While it may not be the fairytale we envisioned, it’s an authentic and rewarding journey that’s worth every effort.
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