Why is it acceptable that many women in the media have to train themselves to ignore inappropriate behavior? Why do we accept that feeling uncomfortable or being objectified is just part of the job? It’s disheartening that new employees in broadcasting often receive pepper spray and warnings about a “creepy guy” during orientation. I’m tired of merely shrugging it off. The #MeToo movement has opened my eyes to the fact that by not confronting this behavior, I am inadvertently endorsing it.
Looking at my little boy, I am committed to raising him to be respectful, kind, and aware of women’s strength. I want him to recognize that we are independent and will advocate for ourselves and each other. However, I also know that he’s growing up in an environment filled with temptations and poor examples. From the sexualized content on social media to easily accessible adult material, he will face countless messages that contradict my values.
So today, I am setting aside my fears of being perceived as “overreacting” and vowing to discuss the issues surrounding #MeToo. I will start these conversations now and continue them as he grows. Will they be awkward? Absolutely. But I believe teenage boys need to hear about sexual harassment from someone they trust most—I hope that’s me. If he ever finds himself in a troubling situation, I want him to know I’m there to listen and that it’s okay to speak out.
During my time in television news, I have been fortunate to avoid the most egregious forms of harassment. Many of my colleagues, however, have faced serious challenges, including filing restraining orders and dealing with relentless, disturbing communications. Did you know that local TV anchors are among the most stalked individuals? This unfortunate reality is a byproduct of our efforts to appear friendly and approachable.
I’ve used references to my marriage to deflect attention; being “taken” makes me less appealing to some. Yet, I want my son to understand that even non-criminal harassment can be harmful and may lead to worse behavior. Just because I am in the public eye doesn’t mean I welcome inappropriate comments. When I post a nostalgic photo from my past, it doesn’t give anyone the right to send explicit messages about their fantasies. If I walk away from an interview, remarks like “nice ass” are far from compliments.
Harassment isn’t limited to online interactions; it happens in public spaces as well. I asked some fellow journalists about their experiences, and while I won’t disclose names for privacy reasons, their stories are alarming. One shared how a man cornered her at a local event, invading her personal space and expressing his fantasy in graphic detail, refusing to let her leave. Another described a chilling encounter where a man made lewd comments at a charity event, leaving her feeling vulnerable and trapped.
Online, the harassment can be even worse. “Silent” harassment through social media is rampant in the broadcasting world. Women face abusive messages daily, and it’s unacceptable. If you wouldn’t say something to my face, don’t say it behind a screen.
Most of my interactions with viewers are positive, and I cherish those relationships. However, it’s crucial to address the negativity we face. One colleague remarked that as broadcasters, we’re expected to remain gracious and agreeable no matter what someone says. The #MeToo movement has empowered us to rethink this expectation. We are speaking out, and it’s time to stop brushing off these experiences, no matter how small.
So, my dear son, remember this important lesson:
- The people you see on TV have feelings too.
- Compliments should stem from kindness, not desire.
- No woman is ever “asking for it,” no matter what she wears.
- Start conversations with a friendly greeting or genuine inquiry.
- If you’re unsure how a comment will be received, it’s best to keep it to yourself.
- Trust your instincts when something feels off.
- And when in doubt, come talk to me. I love you, and I will always give you my honest perspective.
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In summary, it’s crucial to address the realities of harassment in today’s society, not just for the sake of awareness but for the protection and empowerment of future generations.
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