As a mom for over three and a half years—longer if you consider my time pregnant—I fancied myself a pro at managing life’s chaos. I keep tabs on the weather a full week in advance, coordinate our family’s busy schedule, and can recite my child’s favorite cartoon character on any given day without missing a beat.
Imagine my shock when I discovered my partner, Jake, had some valuable lessons to share as well. While I don’t want to boost his ego too much, here are a few insights I’ve gleaned from him:
Embrace Recognition
We often joke about how partners seek praise for minor chores, like unloading the dishwasher once a month, and how they seem to remind us of that feat endlessly. But perhaps there’s merit in this approach. As mothers, we often overlook our achievements, no matter how small they may seem. So, the next time I try a new family recipe, tidy up the house, or even just manage to shave my legs, I’m going to proudly share my victories with those around me. After all, keeping tiny humans alive while accomplishing daily tasks is nothing short of heroic. And if you share your wins with me, I’ll happily celebrate you too! Just a heads up: confetti is limited!
It’s Okay to Make a Mess
I prefer a tidy home and often feel anxious when things are out of order. This means I find myself trailing behind the kids, picking up their toys as they play. Meanwhile, Jake encourages them to create a mess, believing that everyone can tidy up together at day’s end. I admire his approach and hope to adopt it, allowing the kids to learn responsibility. However, my aversion to clutter might take some time to overcome.
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
This ties in with my previous point. I have this need to tidy up the house before we head out on a trip—organizing everything to perfection. Jake, on the other hand, simply packs the suitcase and off we go. Sure, returning to a clean home is nice, but does it really matter if the fridge isn’t organized before we leave? In truth, it never is, anyway! Life can be stressful enough without creating unnecessary pressure.
Take a Break When Needed
While I assume Jake spends his workdays leisurely, scrolling through social media, I know he’s busy, too. When he gets home, he’s engaged with the kids, but he also sneaks in short breaks to check his phone. I used to find this annoying, thinking I never have time for myself. Yet, maybe those few minutes are his way of recharging, allowing him to be more patient and present. Instead of feeling guilty for needing a moment of solitude, I should recognize that taking a breather won’t send the world spiraling out of control.
So, it turns out there are some parenting strategies I can learn from Jake. I will now resume my role as the all-knowing parent in our household. And I wouldn’t mind a little parade of recognition for my efforts—just saying!
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In summary, as I navigate the ups and downs of parenting, I’m realizing that there’s wisdom in taking a step back, celebrating achievements, and allowing a little messiness into our lives.
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