Updated: November 20, 2023
Originally Published: February 8, 2018
I adore my soon-to-be nine-year-old son, who is kind-hearted, a voracious reader, and shares my love for chocolate and the beach. However, it’s been ages since my partner and I enjoyed a date night. Honestly, if we manage to get out once a year, we consider ourselves fortunate.
One major hurdle? I lack a support system and reliable babysitters. The thought of paying a teenager for their time is daunting; I honestly can’t even guess what the going rate is. That money is better spent on a night out, fancy cocktails, or, more realistically, filling up my gas tank.
This leads me to ponder: Where are all the babysitters? When my son was born, everyone was eager to help. I heard countless offers: “He’s precious!” “Can I hold him?” “If you need anything, just ask!” “I’d love to babysit him one day!” Fast forward a few years, and those promises seem to have evaporated. If I were in a jam, I trust someone would step up, but where are those enthusiastic offers now? My phone has been silent, and not once has a friend or family member volunteered to watch my son while we head out for an evening.
I’ve made efforts to connect with other parents, but it often feels like we’re perpetually the ones hosting playdates. I listen while the kids enjoy themselves, engaged in movies, crafts, and the latest toy trends. My son’s friends are over for hours, which I appreciate, yet the reciprocation just doesn’t happen. What happened to the old give-and-take of visiting one another’s homes?
As much as I dislike admitting it, I can’t help but feel envious. I see families who have a support network—grandparents involved regularly, kids spending weekends with relatives, allowing parents some precious time to reconnect. I wish we could be part of that circle.
I don’t want to be jealous; I simply want a chance to go out with my partner. I crave the opportunity to enjoy cocktails and flirt like we used to. A few carefree hours would mean the world, taking me back to when it was just the two of us. While a week on a tropical island sounds amazing, I’d settle for just one night out.
If only I could find a babysitter.
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In summary, lack of babysitting options makes it challenging for couples to enjoy time together. The desire for connection and a break from routine is universal, but it can feel isolating without support. Ultimately, a simple date night can rejuvenate relationships and create cherished memories.
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