Most days, I find myself utterly drained. Since becoming a mother sixteen years ago, fatigue has been a constant companion in my life. As a working mom of four daughters, I’m perpetually busy, juggling tasks for my family throughout the day. Just the other night, as I collapsed into bed feeling particularly worn out, I took a moment to reflect on the array of parenting challenges I had faced:
- I spent half an hour helping my 7-year-old find her beloved stuffed animal, “Whiskers,” which she needs to sleep.
- I coached my 10-year-old on how to handle a bullying situation at school.
- I provided support to my teenage twins, guiding them through their anxiety after receiving threats of gun violence at their high school.
- And I discovered a black cotton thong — not mine — in the laundry.
That day was exhausting, to say the least. On top of these unexpected challenges, I managed to work, clean the kitchen multiple times, prepare meals for six, tackle several loads of laundry, lead a Girl Scout meeting, and ensure everyone stayed on top of homework and extracurricular activities.
Over the years of raising my daughters, I’ve learned to expect the unexpected and to accept that exhaustion comes with the territory — and it’s not going anywhere anytime soon. It’s reassuring to know that I’m not alone; if you’re a mother, you likely understand this whirlwind of chaos. While our situations may vary, we’re all navigating exhaustion, stress, and the constant effort to keep our kids safe and healthy in a world that often feels overwhelming.
After reflecting on my long day, I couldn’t help but wonder: Has parenting become more difficult? The answer is a resounding yes! The challenges we face today are more complex than in previous generations. Take, for instance, the need to discuss intimate issues like finding a thong in my teenager’s laundry and addressing serious topics like school safety — these are conversations I never envisioned having when I first became a mother.
Don’t get me wrong; I embrace this role wholeheartedly. Yet, I find myself astonished at the depth and intensity of the parenting challenges we now encounter. Today’s parents are confronted with a vast array of issues, from managing social media and screen time to addressing the realities of cyberbullying and school violence. We live in a time where public spaces can feel unsafe, and we often witness disappointing behavior from adults in positions of power.
As a psychologist with two decades of experience working with families and teenagers, I am well-versed in discussing tough subjects like substance abuse, domestic violence, and trauma. However, I find it disheartening how quickly childhood is slipping away, overshadowed by adult concerns that encroach upon the innocence of youth.
We’re no longer just focused on nurturing our children’s growth and safety; we are in a mode of tactical defensive parenting. This means preparing for the unexpected, navigating uncertain times, and equipping our children with the skills they need to handle issues that many adults find hard to comprehend.
In the midst of this chaos, I find solace in humor. For instance, discovering a thong right after discussing school safety issues with my teenage daughters provides a much-needed perspective. It’s a reminder that while the big issues loom large, life at home still has its moments of levity. When I broached the topic of the thong with one of my 15-year-old daughters, trying to keep it casual, she responded nonchalantly, explaining that a friend had given it to her because it was more comfortable for running track and ballet. And just like that, another exhausting day of motherhood comes to a close.
As I finish folding laundry, I can’t help but reflect on how far we’ve come from the days of cartoon character underwear. Is it time for bed yet?
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Summary:
Modern parenting presents unique challenges that can often feel overwhelming. From navigating serious issues like bullying and school safety to managing the complexities of social media, today’s parents face a range of concerns that previous generations may not have encountered. Humor and perspective can help alleviate some of the stress, reminding us that while parenting is exhausting, we are not alone in our struggles.
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