For many who experience a significant shift in their feelings, often referred to as a Big Change of Heart, the question arises: did you ever truly love him, or were you just waiting for her? The answer is both simple and complex—yes and no.
Yes, we did love him. Over the years, we built a life together, shared meaningful experiences, and developed intimacy. Yet, love is not static; it evolves. As we grow and change, sometimes we find that our love no longer fulfills us in the same way. Our interests shift, passions fade, and attraction can wane. We may feel mentally, emotionally, or physically unfulfilled, leaving us longing for something more.
Before we can muster the courage to admit these feelings or make a change, she unexpectedly enters our lives. She arrives in an unforeseen manner, even if she has been there all along. The connection we feel with her is unlike anything we’ve experienced before, and falling for her feels like discovering everything we’ve been searching for.
In a way, we were waiting for her—though we may not have realized it. It’s akin to the sentiment expressed in the line from Fools Rush In: “you’re everything I never knew I always wanted.” Yes, that’s precisely what we needed.
However, our love for him was different. While we may not have been actively waiting for her, we were unprepared for the depth of connection we now experience. Both loves hold significance in our lives; neither is false or hidden. In their own times, both felt genuine and real. Yet, with the arrival of her love, the differences between the two become stark and undeniable.
We might even question whether what we felt for him was truly love, given how we now love her. Yet it was—it was the love we needed, and it brought us joy for a considerable time. Today, we embrace a more authentic happiness that we’ve found with her.
Though we have changed, we would have evolved regardless of her presence. We can confidently say we loved him sincerely, yet our love for her fills every aspect of who we are now. But don’t ask us about the future just yet; we’re too immersed in the fulfillment her love brings.
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In summary, navigating the complexities of love can lead us to unexpected places. Embracing both past and current emotions can help us understand our journeys better.
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