I’ve inherited quite a few traits from my dad: my expressive face that gives away my feelings, my tendency to speak up against nonsense, and my utter lack of patience for tardiness. I also got his distinctive cleft chin, his appreciation for Chinese cuisine, and a passion for historical novels. But perhaps the most defining characteristic I received was my curly hair.
Throughout my life, I’ve often heard that women spend significant amounts of money to achieve the voluminous curls I have. However, I suspect the trend shifted after the ’80s when big hair fell out of favor. As a child, my curly locks led to some unfortunate school photos, largely due to the limited number of hair products available to combat frizz. Over time, I learned to tame my curls and accepted that I’d never resemble Meg Ryan with her classic bob. Still, I’ve often envied those with straight hair.
Managing curly hair is no small feat. When your head is filled with spirals, you quickly discover that there’s a whole routine of products, relaxers, and styling tools needed just to step outside. The idea of a simple “wash and go” is a fantasy for women like me. While I’ve embraced my curls as part of my identity, I’d be lying if I said I haven’t fantasized about shaving my head at times.
Becoming a mom only added to the challenges of having curly hair. Let’s be honest: no mother has the luxury of styling her hair when there’s a toddler demanding attention and an infant needing to be fed. Baseball caps have become my go-to accessory since entering motherhood. If you’re a curly-haired woman, I’m raising my deep conditioner bottle to you for understanding this struggle.
1. Epic Bedhead
The first year of my daughter’s life was a whirlwind, during which I often looked like a character from a horror movie. Going to bed with wet hair is a recipe for disaster for curly-haired gals. One morning, after my partner remarked, “You look like a historical figure,” I realized I had a serious hair issue.
2. Short Hair is a No-Go
Curly hair is like a weather gauge; humidity makes it puffier. Length provides options like ponytails and buns, making it easier to manage. So, when those moments come where you contemplate chopping your hair for a few extra minutes in the morning, remember that short curls can lead to chaos.
3. Cutting Costs
My hairstylist has been part of my life for 17 years, and I’m grateful for her skill in taming my wild curls. However, the expenses were easier to manage before kids came along. Once diapers entered the budget, the high-quality hair products that kept my curls in check were the first to be sacrificed, leaving me to navigate life looking a bit unruly.
4. Weather Woes
As a mom, there’s always a reason to be outside, whether it’s watching a game in the sun or rushing into a store during a downpour. Unfortunately, the elements are not kind to curly hair. I have friends who have opted for baseball caps for years to avoid the havoc caused by humidity.
5. Passing it Down
When your kids inherit your curls, bath time can turn into a battle. Even with advancements in detangling sprays and brushes, no amount of product can prevent a toddler from screaming during hair brushing. Sorry, kiddo, no sympathy here—hold still!
Yes, my curly hair can be a hassle most days, and I genuinely envy those who can wake up looking put-together. However, on those rare occasions when the humidity is just right, and I have a few extra minutes to get ready, my curls can be magical and give me a boost of confidence. Plus, since my dad passed away, my curls serve as a sweet reminder of him, bringing a smile to my face.
But let me clarify: the next person with straight hair who says they’d love to have my curls will get a gentle nudge from my flat iron.
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Summary: Women with curly hair navigate a unique set of challenges, from managing their hairstyles to balancing motherhood. While the struggle is real, the love for those curls often outweighs the hassle, especially when they serve as a cherished reminder of family.
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