In today’s world, social media platforms like Facebook and Instagram are flooded with images of extravagant birthday parties for young children. It seems that many parents are eager to spend vast sums of money to create spectacular birthday celebrations for their little ones, even before they’ve entered school. I know families who consistently throw elaborate birthday parties, often spending upwards of $500 for each child per celebration. To me, that just seems excessive.
When it came time to celebrate our son’s first birthday, we faced a surprising amount of criticism for our decision. After careful thought, we opted for a simple gathering at my parents’ home, from 3:30 to 5 p.m., with pizza and a giant blue vanilla cupcake that he barely touched. My mother decorated his high chair with a few banners and a cute Mickey Mouse hat. The guest list included just close family: his uncle, niece, my sister (his godmother), and my grandmother. We invited my husband’s family, but they couldn’t make it. It was cozy and perfectly appropriate for us.
Despite the small gathering, our son felt overwhelmed with all eyes on him, and we didn’t even stay for an hour. I shared a few pictures on Facebook to keep our friends and family updated, and that was the extent of it.
A few days later, I received a text from a so-called friend expressing her daughters’ disappointment over not being invited. She insisted they had a gift for him and seemed genuinely upset, which left me feeling flustered. It felt as though she believed she had a right to be included, which was frustrating. I also had a close friend who expressed her sadness but became more understanding when I clarified that it wasn’t a big party. Why should I have to justify our choices?
Just because others may spend lavishly on birthday celebrations and invite a crowd does not mean we have to follow suit, nor do we owe anyone an invitation. My husband and I are modest folks; neither of us had birthday parties with friends until we were older. Our son is just one year old! And when his second birthday comes around, we won’t be hosting a grand event, either.
The truth is, my child’s birthday is not about fulfilling anyone else’s expectations. So, if you’re feeling left out, perhaps take a moment to consider your involvement in our lives throughout the year and adjust your expectations accordingly.
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In summary, while birthday celebrations can be extravagant, it’s important to recognize that each family has its own style and preferences. Not every gathering has to be a large event, and that’s perfectly okay.
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