There’s nothing inherently wrong with striving for perfection. Seriously, who doesn’t admire the stunning transformations on shows like “Home Makeover”? The grand reveal of beautifully arranged spaces, perfectly selected decor, and immaculate details is undeniably captivating. Perfection is what turned a humble caterer into a household name, someone like Emma Stewart, who became a lifestyle icon and a multi-millionaire.
As mothers and consumers, we often find ourselves at the forefront of the perfection narrative, bombarded with messages that suggest the key to happiness lies in flawlessly curated homes, picture-perfect meals, and meticulously planned events. We’re led to believe that our children’s birthday parties, family outings, and even our parenting methods must meet impossibly high standards.
However, what those glossy magazine pages and endless Pinterest boards fail to convey is that chasing after this unattainable perfection can slowly erode your spirit. I speak from experience; I was trapped in that cycle for years.
I dedicated myself to making everything perfect—every detail mattered. I constantly found myself worrying, “What if someone drops by unannounced?” or “If I don’t bake a homemade cake for my child’s birthday and spend weeks obsessing over party favors and games, will anyone even remember it?” Here’s the reality check: they don’t. Your friends, your kids, your spouse—none of them will recall the perfect party. What they will remember is the stress and exhaustion you endured leading up to it. Ultimately, you’ll remember how much time you squandered trying to fit into a mold that simply isn’t you.
Years ago, I decided to abandon the pursuit of perfection, and it was liberating. I kicked that relentless perfectionist mindset out the door, and I’ve never looked back. I made it clear to my family that I was done striving for flawless experiences, and instead, we would embrace the beauty of being average together. I was ready to speed down the “relaxed parent” highway, leaving perfection behind.
When you finally declare that you’re finished with perfection, a remarkable shift occurs. What once seemed unacceptable becomes perfectly fine. As soon as “average” becomes your new standard, you find yourself adopting a more positive outlook on life. Your kids’ quirks become less bothersome, as you realize their imperfections are just part of being a child, not a reflection of your parenting.
Embracing normalcy and average can feel euphoric, almost like a rebellious stand against the unrealistic standards drilled into us for years. I like to think of it as “saying goodbye to perfection, one carefree moment at a time.”
There are countless resources on how to let go of unrealistic expectations, especially for mothers, but you don’t have to wait another day—or bake another elaborate cake—to liberate yourself from perfectionism. Start today. Inform your family that it’s time to embrace real life, and watch as you begin to enjoy a happier, more authentic existence.
And no, during all those years I was obsessed with making everything perfect, no one ever knocked on my door.
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