In the midst of balancing a career and motherhood, I recently attended a local fundraising event focused on empowering women. With my newborn daughter in tow and my 3-year-old son at home, I hoped to engage in meaningful conversations with other adults. During one of these discussions, I was invited to speak at a gathering for a local mothers’ group. When I inquired about the topic, I expected requests for my expertise in speech and language, feeding therapy, or literacy—subjects I often cover.
However, the question posed to me was quite different: “Could you speak on how to seamlessly adjust to being a mother of two?” My initial reaction was one of disbelief—“I can’t possibly lead that discussion; I’m still figuring it out myself!” Yet, as I drove home with my sleeping daughter, it struck me that perhaps I appeared to have it together enough to inspire others.
Reflecting on my day-to-day life, I consider myself the type of mom who makes meals fun by cutting food into interesting shapes and engages in Pinterest-inspired activities, like crafting sensory bins. My son is exposed to healthy fruits and vegetables daily, and we share enjoyable reading sessions. I’m honing my multitasking skills, capable of operating a breast pump with one hand while constructing a Lego dinosaur with the other. Overall, my children seem happy and healthy, and I’m excited about the release of three more children’s books this year.
But let’s be clear: my reality is far from perfect.
In the two months since my daughter’s arrival, I’ve neglected to pay four bills—hello, late fees! The stress of managing two children alongside two part-time jobs often brings me to tears at least twice a week. It feels as though I’m giving half-efforts across the board. While I sometimes meet deadlines, it’s usually by a narrow margin.
Breastfeeding my children has been a gift, but the stress of washing and packing pump parts at work throughout the day is exhausting. Not to mention the need to carry a gallon of water and a substantial amount of food daily, since I’m perpetually hungry. On particularly challenging days, I find myself hiding from the kids just to enjoy whipped cream straight from the can—sometimes while sobbing, sometimes not, depending on the day.
So, if you see a mom who seems to have it all figured out—even one organized enough to lead a seminar on parenting—remember that she might also need to find a quiet space to indulge in whipped cream as a coping mechanism. The truth is, no one navigates the journey of motherhood—especially with two children—without a few hidden struggles.
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In summary, being a working mom of two isn’t as effortless as it may appear. The reality is filled with challenges, but with a little humor and honesty, we can navigate this journey together.
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