As parents, we often find ourselves reflexively saying “no” to our children before we even have a chance to fully understand their requests or ideas. This knee-jerk reaction can stem from the constant need to keep our kids safe and sound—a habit that can quickly become second nature.
“Can we watch that new movie, Mom?”
“No, it’s not appropriate.”
“Can I have dessert for dinner?”
“No, it’s too close to mealtime.”
“Can I take my rock collection on our trip?”
“Seriously? You want to bring rocks?”
We’ve all had those days (or even weeks) when “no” seems to be our default answer. The reasons are many: fatigue, the chaos of daily life, or just losing track of why we entered a room in the first place. While I relish being the one in charge, I often find myself yearning for a break from the constant negativity.
One way to mitigate the guilt and inject more joy into our parenting is to adopt a “Yes Day,” a tradition inspired by the actress Mia Daniels, who embraces this concept with her children. Although these days can be exhausting, they also remind us of the joy that comes from saying “yes” and creating cherished memories together.
The goal isn’t to let kids indulge in everything they’ve ever wanted—think ordering a mountain of toys from the internet or devouring a tub of cookie dough. Instead, it’s about transforming an ordinary day into a special adventure where kids can choose activities that bring them joy, whether that’s a trip to a water park or a visit to their favorite eatery.
Implementing a Yes Day can be a refreshing change for families, and if it fits into your schedule, why not consider making it more than just an annual event? Imagine how thrilled your kids would be to celebrate a Yes Day on their birthdays each year!
Mia has been so inspired by this concept that she plans to star in and produce a movie about it, which is likely to spread the idea even further. It’s a day that families can eagerly anticipate, even if it leaves us a bit worn out afterward. I can’t wait to start this tradition in my own family.
However, I believe it’s crucial for mothers to also plan their own “Yes Day.” Whether it’s treating yourself to a new handbag, taking a well-deserved nap, or indulging in that extra-large scoop of ice cream, you deserve it! After all, fair is fair.
In summary, while it’s vital to say “no” when necessary, adding a Yes Day to your family’s routine can create memorable experiences. And don’t forget to give yourself a Yes Day too; you’ve earned it.
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