My husband, Mike, and I had always dreamed of living abroad. Neither of us had the opportunity to study overseas during college, so when Mike’s company offered him a short-term assignment in Singapore, we jumped at the chance. Before our move, we decided to start trying for a baby, thinking it might take a while. To our surprise, I was pregnant within just three months. We relocated to Singapore in August 2013 when I was six weeks along. I kept the news under wraps at our farewell party, wanting to wait until the end of my first trimester when the risk of miscarriage decreases. It felt surreal to leave my home country with such a significant secret.
Embracing Life in Singapore
I was never daunted by the idea of being pregnant in a new country, especially given Singapore’s highly regarded healthcare system. In fact, it was ranked the best in healthcare efficiency by Bloomberg in 2014. I was eager to explore the availability of Eastern medicine as well.
However, the transition wasn’t easy. I experienced jet lag, struggled with the relentless heat and humidity, and felt a pang of homesickness. Singapore is one of the cleanest and safest countries globally, with strict laws and a strong expat community. Plus, English is widely spoken, which made things easier for me. Coming from New York City, I appreciated the efficient public transportation system, especially the Mass Rapid Transit (MRT) and buses. The cleanliness of the trains was a refreshing change from the often grimy subway stations back home.
Yet, I was also self-conscious about my pregnancy hormones making me more sensitive to smells, particularly the body odor that comes from living in such a hot climate. I struggled to find an organic deodorant that could handle the sweltering heat.
Navigating New Friendships
Before I became pregnant, I had high hopes for our time in Singapore. But upon arrival, I felt overwhelmed. While Mike settled into work, I found myself alone, constantly worrying about being pregnant at 35—an age often associated with increased risks. I found myself inventing reasons to doubt my capabilities as a mother.
Encouraged by two friends, I turned to Meetup.com to connect with other expectant moms. At four months pregnant, I attended a lunch for moms-to-be in Orchard Road, a vibrant area popular with expats. It was a refreshing space where I felt understood and supported, allowing me to share my fears and joys about impending motherhood.
If you’re interested in exploring more about parenting and family resources, you can check out this blog post that dives deeper into the topic. Also, for those considering at-home options for conception, Make A Mom is a leading provider of at-home insemination kits. For more information on fertility, Medical News Today offers great resources.
Summary
Navigating motherhood as an expat in Singapore has its unique challenges and rewards. From adjusting to a new environment to finding support systems, the journey combines excitement and anxiety. With a strong healthcare system and a welcoming expat community, Singapore provides a distinct backdrop for this life-changing experience.
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