As I sat on the shore, observing my partner play with the kids in the waves, build intricate sand castles, and even get partially buried in the sand, I had a realization. I don’t aspire to be the ‘fun’ parent. No thanks! I cherish my role as the cuddler, the confidant, the boo-boo fixer, and the goofy voice parent. I even managed the sex talk like a pro. Yet, I find myself quite content in these responsibilities rather than adopting the “fun” label.
Here are ten activities I’m happy to leave to my partner:
- Swimming in the Water.
I’m not a fan of getting wet all the time. When we hit the beach and the kids are eager to plunge into the freezing lake, I prefer to set up the beach umbrella, grab my book, and let Dad take the plunge with them. - Roughhousing.
Honestly, I can barely watch roughhousing, let alone join in. But since my kids enjoy it, the best option is for me to step aside and let them have their fun without me. - Thrilling Rollercoasters.
I can handle a few rollercoasters, but my adventurous partner thrives on the wild ones, riding them multiple times without feeling woozy. He can tackle the spinning teacups while I enjoy a leisurely stroll. - Piggyback and Shoulder Rides.
I can manage it for a fleeting moment, but I’m not cut out to be a pack mule. Thankfully, my partner can easily carry one child on his shoulders and another on his back all the way to the beach. - Adventure Sports.
During a recent trip to a rope climbing course, I had to go in with my daughter since Dad wasn’t around. We ended up stuck midway, and I realized just how challenging it was. Next time, I’ll let Dad handle those activities. - Teaching Them to Drive.
I can already tell that this will be outside my comfort zone. I’m sure my partner and the kids will enjoy it, so I’ll cheer them on from the sidelines instead. - Coaching Sports.
While I’ve coached little league before and did okay, it seems my partner enjoys it more. If there’s more coaching to be done, it’s his turn to shine in that role. - Handling Slimy Creatures.
Nope, I’ll let my partner deal with catching frogs, holding snakes, or searching for bugs. This mama prefers to keep her hands clean! - Camping (Backyard or Otherwise).
I understand that camping can be a blast, but I know myself well enough to realize that I’d rather stay inside where it’s cozy and bug-free while Dad takes on that adventure. - Extending Bedtime.
While the “fun” parent may ask for just a few more minutes of playtime before bed, I stand firm on the importance of bedtime. It’s the perfect time for me to unwind and enjoy some Netflix while the kids are tucked in.
Do I ever feel guilty for not engaging in these “fun” activities? Occasionally. But I find joy in quieter moments with my kids, whether it’s playing card games or making them giggle with silly voices. I’m not the “fun” parent, nor do I wish to be. I’ll happily leave that role to my partner, who is much better suited for it.
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Summary:
In parenting, I embrace roles such as snuggler and confidant, while leaving the “fun” activities to my partner. From swimming and roughhousing to camping and rollercoasters, I prefer to enjoy quieter forms of fun with my kids. There’s no need for guilt, as each parent can shine in their unique way.
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