Anyone who has experienced preschool drop-off understands it can be as demanding as running an obstacle course. With toddlers darting around, parents hurrying to part from their little ones, and the occasional tearful scene, it’s a juggling act. Now, imagine tackling this with a baby in your arms—it’s like attempting that same course with one hand tied behind your back. Moms have mastered these chaotic moments, sometimes feeling triumphant, while other times just relieved to have made it through unscathed.
Recently, my friend, Jake, took on the challenge of drop-off with his two-year-old daughter and newborn son for the first time. Here’s how he described the experience: “One week after my son was born, I walked into preschool with both kids in tow. I had one in each hand and my daughter’s unicorn backpack slung over my back. As I entered, several moms applauded my effort, which felt amazing as I headed down the hall. I genuinely thought I had nailed the whole dad-of-two thing. But it made me think.”
Jake noted that, prior to his son’s arrival, he often saw moms managing drop-offs with multiple kids, all while juggling strollers, car seats, and bags. Yet, he observed that no one seemed to offer them the same accolades. “It dawned on me that there’s an underlying expectation for moms,” he reflected. “They brought these kids into the world, so it’s assumed they can handle anything!”
While I appreciate Jake’s acknowledgment of the challenges of parenthood, it raises a significant question. Like many of my mom friends, I navigate the demanding task of drop-off with two kids almost daily (often twice if you count pick-up). Yet, I can’t recall ever receiving a round of applause for it. Not that I expect it—after all, it’s part of my role. But shouldn’t we receive recognition for tackling difficult tasks?
I’m not undermining what dads do; my husband takes on drop-off for our older child so that I can care for the baby. Jake’s achievement deserves every bit of praise he received. However, why shouldn’t moms get the same acknowledgment? It serves as a reminder of the hard work mothers put in daily, often with little recognition.
Since our daughter was born seven months ago, I’ve been learning to manage the responsibilities of caring for both a toddler and a newborn. Some days, I feel like I have it all together; other days, it’s a struggle. It’s not that I can’t manage both, but let’s be real—juggling a toddler and a baby alone is no small feat. It would be nice to receive the kind of recognition Jake experienced.
To all the dads reading this, take a moment to thank your partner for her hard work. Whether she’s a stay-at-home mom or works full-time, she’s likely putting in substantial effort to ensure your children have smooth days. And to the moms out there, remember that what you do every day is incredibly demanding, and you are truly champions for getting it done. Consider this your well-deserved round of applause!
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Summary
The disparity in recognition between dads and moms for similar parenting tasks is highlighted through anecdotes and reflections on the daily challenges of managing children. While dads often receive praise for their efforts, moms frequently go unnoticed despite their hard work. This piece encourages appreciation for both parents and acknowledges the collective effort required in parenting.
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