It’s always the same when I reunite with friends or family—now seven months postpartum—I receive a scan from head to toe followed by the familiar, “You look fantastic!” My response is swift: “Thank you! I feel amazing!”
Before and after pregnancy, I never fully grasped the subtle judgments surrounding body image. There’s a pervasive notion that gaining more than twenty pounds during pregnancy can lead to complications and make postpartum weight loss more challenging. However, every woman’s experience is unique; we all come in different shapes and sizes. The goal should be to prioritize health and maintain a balanced diet, both during and after pregnancy. Regular exercise proved crucial for me; I remained active throughout my pregnancy until the 37-week mark to prepare my body for labor.
When my son arrived, he weighed an astonishing 10.8 pounds! I was taken aback when I first saw him on the scale. I delivered him naturally, and it felt like I had run a triathlon in the process. I gained a total of 18 pounds, and my son accounted for half of that weight. He was a perfectly healthy and beautiful baby.
As I recount this experience, I often hear gasps of surprise: “Oh my gosh, he was so big! You look amazing!” followed by tales of weight loss journeys. Truthfully, I didn’t feel like I looked great. Not every mother can bounce back to looking like Kate Middleton just moments after giving birth. It’s a reality check. I deeply admire those mothers who can hit the gym within a week and reclaim their pre-baby bodies.
Yet, the truth for me was that my son needed me more than I needed to look like my former self. The sleepless nights filled with breastfeeding, diaper changes, and comforting him became my priority. Just a month postpartum, my husband and I attempted a walk, and I nearly collapsed—my body wasn’t ready. At four months, I tried a postpartum workout series recommended by Autumn, which I had also followed during pregnancy. The first two weeks were grueling, but gradually, I began to regain strength in my legs and back.
Did I regain my pre-baby body? Absolutely not. Each time I gazed in the mirror, I scrutinized my new figure adorned with stretch marks. My body was changed, and I wondered if it would ever revert to its original form. The reality is that loose skin and stretch marks would likely remain. For the first three months after giving birth, I felt an emptiness, missing my son’s presence in my womb. That little flap of skin became a reminder of how he was my human safety blanket.
As time passed, my body performed an incredible feat: it not only produced milk for my son but also began to heal and reshape itself into a new form. I have grown to embrace this new body, imperfections and all. When suggestions come my way to consider a tummy tuck or laser treatments for my stretch marks, I simply tune them out.
To all the mothers out there: pause before discussing weight with someone who has just given birth. She might, like me, feel proud of her new mom bod. Sharing stories about breastfeeding journeys, sleep training, or baby milestones can be more uplifting. We should celebrate each other for the remarkable gift of bringing life into the world. Our bodies deserve reverence as vessels of this incredible experience.
My daily affirmation whenever I pass a mirror is: “I am a warrior. My mom bod is a temple, and I wear my stripes with pride.”
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Summary
This article highlights the journey of embracing a postpartum body, celebrating the changes that come with motherhood, and acknowledging the unique experiences of each woman. It encourages mothers to focus on their strengths and the beauty of their transformation rather than societal expectations of body image.
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