Last week, after a bout of misbehavior, my spirited five-year-old twin found herself in a brief moment of solitude. What led to this timeout? Honestly, I can’t recall; her fiery personality is reminiscent of my own childhood. She’s headstrong, tenacious, and bursting with energy, traits I admire even when they pose challenges for me as a parent.
As she navigates her emotions, it is my responsibility to guide her. I want to ensure her vibrant spirit remains unharmed. These qualities are among the many things I deeply value and celebrate in her.
So, I was taken aback when, out of nowhere, she asked, “Mom, do you still love me?” She had just emerged from her timeout, fiddling with her hair as she approached me.
I scooped her into my arms, creating a cozy nook on the couch, and reassured her, “I will always love you, sweetheart. Nothing you do could ever change that. I might feel upset sometimes, but my love for you is constant.” Her genuine smile told me she was reassured, but I was left puzzled, wanting to understand the reason behind her question.
In true form, she brushed off my inquiries and dashed off to play with her brother, leaving me with a lump in my throat and a knot in my stomach. Was I not showing her enough love? What prompted such a question? I express my love for her daily—did she really not feel it?
Seeking clarity, I consulted a family therapist friend and asked for her insights on my daughter’s concerning question. Her suggestion was illuminating: did my daughter understand that she was forgiven after being disciplined? Suddenly, everything clicked into place.
While I had always forgiven my children, I realized I hadn’t communicated that to them as effectively as I thought. I recalled my own childhood, where I often sought my mother’s forgiveness after missteps. A simple acknowledgment of forgiveness was crucial for me; it signaled that we could start anew.
This revelation transformed how I approached my children’s behavior. Although I often opted for an “it’s okay, I still love you” response, I now understood that they, like me, needed the explicit words of forgiveness. Without realizing it, I had deprived them of the experience of forgiveness and its liberating power.
Implementing this change over the past few weeks has yielded remarkable results. I’ve noticed a deeper connection with my children, and despite the inevitable challenges of parenting, we now have a pathway to renewal with each “I forgive you.”
I aim to teach my children how to navigate relationships with empathy, helping them understand when to forgive, and when to walk away. My goal is to equip them with the knowledge that they are always worthy of grace, even in their most challenging moments.
As they grow, they will face situations far more complex than minor sibling squabbles, and I want them to know that forgiveness is vital for healing and moving forward.
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In summary, my child’s innocent question prompted a significant shift in my parenting approach. By emphasizing the importance of forgiveness, I’m not only nurturing their emotional development but also strengthening our bond.
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