In a striking new video, actress and activist Lila Thompson shines a light on the bewildering contradictions that women face daily. Set aside a few minutes to watch this important piece. Thompson, known for her role in City Life, collaborated with Empowered Voices Magazine to produce “Be a Lady, They Said!” This video is a must-see for anyone who identifies as a woman, knows a woman, or shares a community with women—essentially, everyone.
Since its debut on Vimeo, the video has attracted nearly 3.5 million views and continues to grow in popularity. The spoken-word performance features a poignant text by author Jamie Rivers, which highlights the conflicting expectations imposed on women.
“Be a lady, they said. Your dress is too short; your top is too revealing. Cover yourself up, but leave something to the imagination. Don’t entice; men can’t handle it,” Thompson recites. “Don’t be too heavy; don’t be too slim. Indulge, but watch your weight. Choose a salad; carbs are your enemy. You look skeletal!”
The piece goes on, illustrating the near-impossible standards women are expected to meet in today’s society. As Thompson delivers Rivers’ powerful words, stark visuals fill the screen: nudity, raw meat, scars, and young girls in heavy makeup.
This intense audio-visual experience lays bare the hypocrisy behind the directive to “just be a lady.” What does that even mean? As the video powerfully conveys, it’s a phrase loaded with contradictions, judgments, and misogyny. There is no simple way to “be a lady” when the criteria are constantly shifting, set by those who often do not experience these pressures.
Don’t miss out—watch it now! For those who want to delve deeper, the full original text of Rivers’ “Be a Lady, They Said” is available for reference.
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Conclusion
In summary, Lila Thompson’s compelling video “Be a Lady, They Said!” addresses the complex and often contradictory expectations placed on women, making it essential viewing for all.
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