Scrolling through Facebook can sometimes feel like a chore, especially when you have dishes piling up and a never-ending list of emails. But every now and then, you stumble upon a familiar face that triggers a spark of nostalgia. It might be a photo of an old friend from your pre-motherhood days—perhaps she resembles an actress you once admired but can’t quite remember. As you pause to read her name, you realize it’s a snapshot of a fellow mom from back when she was navigating life before kids. The difference is striking; she looks so different from the mom you’ve come to know.
Finding these hidden gems is an absolute delight. As moms, we often meet new friends at various playdates and storytimes, all of us sporting bags under our eyes and the occasional yogurt smudge on our clothes. We bond over shared experiences of sleepless nights, diaper disasters, and the chaos of tantrums—both our kids’ and our own. Our lives may seem mundane to outsiders, but we understand the unique struggle of motherhood, sharing tips and articles that often lead to nowhere.
Then, you come across that photo of your mom friend from a decade ago. She’s at a fun college party, a drink in hand, hair perfectly styled, and carefree laughter captured in a moment frozen in time. She could be backpacking through exotic lands or presenting groundbreaking research—whatever the case, she looks utterly different from the woman sitting beside you at the local library story hour.
These glimpses into the past are not just nostalgic; they are vital reminders of who our friends are beneath the layers of motherhood. Just because we are currently in a phase of exhaustion doesn’t diminish the vibrant individuals we once were—and still are. Yes, we might not fit into those size 4 jeans anymore (or, let’s be honest, size 10 in my case), but that’s part of our journey. We’ve transformed ourselves for the tiny humans who rely on us, and there’s no shame in that.
Should we overlook those carefree versions of ourselves because we no longer fit into our old jeans? Absolutely not. Those experiences shaped who we are and have contributed to the relationships we have today. Perhaps back then, she was finding love or navigating the dating scene. Every decision she made was part of the path leading to the life she lives now, which may include kids who look to her for guidance.
And let’s not forget about the dreams and ambitions that were in the making all those years ago. Whether she’s balancing her career with motherhood or taking a break, her passion and knowledge haven’t vanished—they’re simply waiting for the right moment to resurface.
So, the next time those old photos pop up in our memories, let’s celebrate them. They are beautiful reminders of growth. The girls in those velour tracksuits and sticky gloss transitioned into the strong women we lean on today. Instead of longing for their carefree days, let’s appreciate how far we’ve come and who we continue to be.
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In summary, our past selves are not to be forgotten; they are part of the tapestry of who we are. Embrace the journey and all the changes that come with it.
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