As a woman comfortably settled in my 40s, I’ve observed that discussions surrounding this stage of life often revolve around a long-standing misconception: the infamous midlife crisis. This trope permeates bestselling literature, cliché humor, and whispered gossip about friends who suddenly make drastic changes, like quitting their stable jobs to pursue artistic dreams or dyeing their hair vibrant colors.
Earlier this year, the book “Why Women Can’t Sleep: The New Midlife Crisis” by Mia Thompson became a bestseller, resonating with many women across the nation—perhaps even beyond. While Thompson captures the essence of the turmoil we sometimes face, the persistent use of the term “midlife crisis” is simply misplaced.
Let’s be real: Are we sometimes bewildered? Absolutely. Do we occasionally feel inexplicably irritable? Definitely. Do we fantasize about reinventing our lives? Often. Are we making bold changes like getting tattoos, leaving unsatisfactory relationships, or even changing careers? Yes, yes, and yes. Do we lie awake, consumed with worries about our children or aging parents? You bet.
But is this a crisis? NOT AT ALL.
Let’s clarify: our 40s aren’t a carefree paradise. We grapple with confusion, frustration, and a whirlwind of emotions. We experience moments of low-grade anxiety and oscillate between wanting to scream and weep. Yet, this isn’t a crisis; it’s simply part of the human experience. It reflects our unwillingness to pretend that everything is perfect. This phase is about courageously embracing the complexities of life. It’s not our fault that society tends to label us as “overly emotional” or in “crisis” when we express our true selves.
We’ve been conditioned to follow a certain path: attend school, secure a job, build a family, and ultimately, question where the years went. But you know what? We’re done with that monotonous cycle. We’re tired of the relentless pursuit of societal validation. Those ingrained “shoulds” instilled by well-meaning mentors and family members often don’t apply to us anymore.
As we navigate this tumultuous yet liberating period, we are shedding outdated beliefs. We’re sweating out those old ideals with every hot flash. Many of us are letting go of friendships that no longer serve us and embracing styles we once deemed “inappropriate.” We’re quitting unfulfilling jobs, returning to school, or even stepping off the corporate ladder altogether because chasing after promotions feels exhausting.
We’re opting for intimate gatherings over large mom meet-ups, choosing to surround ourselves with those who truly understand us. We’re experimenting with our appearances because why not? Maybe we’re selling our homes to explore the country in an RV or downsizing to a tiny house for a season—just because we can.
We’re saying NO more often and voicing our discontent when we encounter injustice. We’re fed up with the nonsense and are unafraid to walk away from what doesn’t serve us. We’re not shy about belting out tunes from our favorite rock bands, even if it embarrasses our kids. And when it comes to drinks, we’re reaching for a stiff whiskey rather than a light wine.
What works for others may not apply to us. Just because something has “always been done” doesn’t mean it’s the only way forward. We’re prioritizing self-acceptance over external approval, shunning arbitrary “rules” that don’t align with our realities.
Yes, this time can be frightening and confusing, but it’s also liberating. It’s a journey of self-discovery, peeling away the layers of expectations we’ve carried for too long. We’re no longer waiting for someone else to rescue us; we’re taking charge of our own lives. So please, let’s stop calling this a crisis. It’s an awakening, a celebration, and a powerful reckoning.
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Summary
In our 40s, we experience a myriad of emotions and challenges often mischaracterized as a midlife crisis. Instead of succumbing to societal pressures, we’re embracing our true selves and making bold changes. This period is about self-discovery, growth, and liberation rather than crisis.
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