As we transition into a new year, a wave of relief washes over many of us. Regardless of who you are or where you reside, it’s been a tough year for everyone. So, how do you close the chapter on a year that has left you feeling defeated? I’m here to share some advice, drawing from my personal experiences.
Let me explain my background. Over the last five years, I’ve faced a series of difficult circumstances. In 2015, I was diagnosed with cervical cancer, entered remission, then became pregnant only to suffer a loss due to an ectopic pregnancy. The following year was filled with emotional ups and downs as I navigated fertility treatments, often leaving me feeling like a human pincushion.
In 2017, I welcomed my son into the world, only to lose him shortly after birth. The next year brought my second son, who was born prematurely and required extensive hospital care. While 2019 was relatively quieter, the anxiety and PTSD from prior events lingered.
For the past four New Year’s Eves, I’ve wished for the burdens of the previous year to vanish, hoping for brighter days ahead. I’ve tried various methods to cope, from celebrating with joyful friends to throwing myself a pity party. I’ve even gone to bed early to avoid the festivities altogether.
Whether you’re hopeful about the upcoming year or anxious about the shadows of the past lingering on, here’s my hard-earned wisdom on how to bid farewell to this challenging year.
Take a Moment to Say Goodbye.
While it’s impossible to erase emotional baggage, you can acknowledge it. Saying goodbye doesn’t mean forgetting or moving on; it means refusing to let it hinder your progress. Reflect on the highs and lows of the past year, recognizing how they’ve shaped you. Consider what 2020 took from you—time with loved ones, plans, or your sense of security. For those who faced severe hardships, like illness or loss, the scars may be lasting. Honor your journey and prepare for 2021 with strategies for healing and coping. Personally, I plan to write down my experiences and burn the list at midnight, starting fresh with my therapist on a Zoom call. Care to join me?
Recognize the Positives.
While 2017 brought unimaginable pain, it was also the year I became a mother. I won’t allow the loss of my son to overshadow the joy of his brief life. As I welcomed the new year, I expressed gratitude for both the joy and the sorrow. Similarly, while 2020 was tough, it had its silver linings. Juggling work and parenting during lockdown was challenging, yet I gained invaluable time with my son. The limitations on physical gatherings allowed me to reconnect with old friends from afar.
As December 31 approaches, compile a list of the positives from 2020—new skills, newfound appreciation for safety, perhaps even an expanded collection of cozy clothes. Focus on these bright spots as you move forward.
Set Realistic Expectations.
It’s easy to create lofty expectations for a new year, especially after a difficult one. As the clock struck midnight in 2016, I was convinced things couldn’t get worse—and they did. While it’s great to look forward to potential improvements in 2021, remember that life can be unpredictable. It’s okay to hope for better times, but don’t let those expectations overshadow the joys that may appear amidst the challenges.
As you plan for the year ahead, set realistic goals. Celebrate every small victory you achieve, no matter how minor it may seem.
Let’s say it together: “Goodbye 2020, I’ll remember you, but it’s time to move on.”
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Summary:
Bidding farewell to a difficult year involves acknowledging your experiences, appreciating the positives, and setting realistic expectations for the future. As you reflect on the past, remember to honor your journey while looking ahead with hope.
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