I’ve never pretended to have an orgasm. This isn’t a boastful claim; it simply never crossed my mind to fake it. During my college years and into my twenties, I accepted the belief that men climax every time, while women only do on rare occasions—usually dictated by a mix of conditions like the moon phase, household chores being done, and the right temperature in the room. It seemed like a complicated formula that made women’s pleasure secondary. But I never succumbed to faking it; I just considered my body to be uncooperative and moved on. (Fast forward: I’ve since discovered my queerness, and now my body and my partner are quite in sync!)
Of course, I was aware that faking orgasms happened, particularly in heterosexual relationships. Women often cite reasons ranging from not wanting to hurt their partner’s feelings to simply wanting to end the encounter quickly. This reality is disheartening. We should never feel compelled to fake pleasure. It’s a reflection of toxic masculinity that creates a culture where women deny themselves joy and feel the need to lie about it. This issue goes deeper than just the male ego; many women internalize feelings of inadequacy, believing their satisfaction isn’t worth the effort.
Let’s unite as individuals with vaginas—regardless of how we identify—and pledge to never fake an orgasm for anyone or any reason. Faking not only undermines your own pleasure but also misleads your partner about what truly satisfies you. Pop culture promotes the idea that women should achieve orgasm quickly—think about how frequently this is depicted in movies and adult films. In shows like “Bridgerton,” the quick climax is all too common, which sets unrealistic expectations.
We often assume that men can’t handle the truth about their performance, perpetuating the stereotype that they must orgasm every time. If someone’s ego can’t handle constructive feedback, it’s time to reconsider that relationship. Conversely, if your partner is genuinely interested in your pleasure, don’t mislead them by pretending you’re satisfied when you’re not. That approach does a disservice to both of you and clouds the understanding of what brings a woman pleasure.
Never deprive yourself of enjoyment based on feelings of being flawed or “broken.” Medical conditions can interfere with the ability to orgasm, but if it’s simply a matter of needing more time to warm up, that’s perfectly okay. You’re not defective. Studies show that only 18% of women achieve orgasm through penetration alone, so it’s normal to take a little longer or to prefer other forms of stimulation. Every vagina is unique and deserves the time and attention necessary to discover what feels best.
It’s perfectly valid to say, “I’ve enjoyed this, but an orgasm isn’t happening today,” and then stop without any pretense. If your partner can’t handle that honesty, they might not be the right fit for you.
It’s time we foster awareness about vaginas. I’m not against the portrayal of quick climaxes in media, but a balanced understanding of female pleasure is crucial. Everyone should recognize that the spectrum of what’s “normal” is vast. If we understood this better, we wouldn’t equate a lack of orgasm with failure—neither for ourselves nor our partners.
Vaginas are beautiful in all their intricate, enigmatic glory, whether or not they climax. They are just as deserving of pleasure regardless of the timing. Let’s embrace that truth without the need for deception.
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Summary: Women should never feel the need to fake orgasms, as it diminishes their own pleasure and creates misunderstandings in relationships. The societal conditioning that prioritizes male satisfaction over female pleasure must be challenged. Embracing honesty about one’s needs and desires is essential for fulfilling sexual experiences.
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