Dear Beloved,
You are my everything—the person I cherish, my confidant, and my greatest ally. Throughout our journey together, we’ve celebrated life’s joys and faced challenges side by side, offering each other unwavering love and support. My affection for you has only deepened since our wedding day. You are an amazing, adventurous, and inspiring partner. Our intimate moments are fulfilling and vibrant, and I truly appreciate them.
So, it’s understandable if you find yourself questioning why I still engage in self-pleasure. If our physical connection is so gratifying, why do I sometimes seek that experience alone? I sense that you may feel a bit uneasy, as if my private moments with myself are a secret affair—a hidden aspect of my life you wish would disappear.
Let me clarify. I’m a committed husband and father—not a teenager driven by hormones. But do I sometimes feel the urge to indulge in solo moments? Yes, I do. And I’d like to explain why.
From my teenage years, I’ve experienced times when my emotions feel overwhelming, and my mind needs a break. It’s not solely about sexuality; it can also stem from stress, anxiety, or sadness. Sometimes, I need a brief escape, a moment of solitude to recharge, and I’ve found that self-pleasure provides that release.
Years later, this remains a source of comfort for me. Just as some unwind with a glass of wine or a relaxing massage, I find relief in self-pleasure. It’s an enjoyable, natural way for me to destress without incurring any costs.
When I had the freedom of being single, I could understand why I sought self-pleasure as a form of relief. Now that I have an exciting partner like you, can’t I simply find that same satisfaction with you? Sometimes, yes! Our shared moments are blissful and transformative; they lift my spirits and bring me joy.
However, we are two individuals with our own needs and moods, and we won’t always be in sync. There are times when you may feel too tired or overwhelmed to engage in intimacy. In those instances, I might discreetly take a moment for myself, and then we can return to our usual routines.
Even if you were always available, I’m not convinced that partnered intimacy could fully replace my solo moments. Engaging with a partner involves connection and communication—attuning to each other’s desires. While I love that aspect of our intimacy, there are moments when I prefer the simplicity of self-pleasure. It allows me to quiet my mind and find tranquility without the need for interaction.
Consider this: there are activities we both enjoy, like taking peaceful walks together. Those moments are special, yet I know you also value your alone time to reflect and relax.
As for my solo moments being secretive, they don’t have to be. If you’re curious about what I’m doing, I’m open to sharing that with you. You’re welcome to join me in a way that feels comfortable, even if it’s just to be close without engaging in sexual activity. I respect your boundaries, and I’m happy to enjoy my own company when you’re not in the mood.
You might wonder about the thoughts that cross my mind during those times. Honestly, I let my imagination roam freely. Much like in meditation, I allow my thoughts to flow without judgment. Sometimes, I think of you, but other memories or fantasies may surface. It’s liberating to let go and escape reality for a moment.
Just to clarify: I’m not fantasizing about someone else or building a parallel life. The thoughts I entertain are transient and don’t hold the weight of reality. They come and go like fleeting dreams, and I don’t dwell on them.
So yes, I do engage in self-pleasure, and I’ve been doing so for over thirty years. I want you to know that it’s not about excluding you or escaping our life together. Sometimes, it’s simply about managing anxiety or indulging in a moment of pleasure. Regardless, I always return to you, feeling recharged and so grateful for the wonderful partner you are.
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In summary, my solo experiences are about personal comfort and relaxation, not about distancing myself from you. I value our connection and always return to you feeling rejuvenated and appreciative.
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