How ‘80s Films Can Guide Us in Parenting Our Tweens and Teens

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As my children have matured and we’ve finally retired the relentless episodes of children’s programming, my partner and I have begun to share with our tweens the magical realm of ‘80s cinema—the most iconic genre of film ever created.

These films transport me back to a time when I layered socks like a fashion statement, boasted voluminous hairstyles, and spent countless hours chatting on a vibrant pink phone—probably more than many operators combined. I take pride in the fact that my generation gave the world timeless classics like “Spies Like Us” and “Caddyshack.” Icons like John Candy, Dan Aykroyd, and Chevy Chase, alongside Molly Ringwald, Anthony Michael Hall, and Andrew McCarthy, provided the soundtrack of our youth. Their films shaped us, influencing everything from our fashion choices to our outlook on life.

The ‘80s brought us narratives that tackled serious issues like social justice, teenage angst, and even time travel. We absorbed lessons about compassion, friendship, and resilience through secret societies, boarding school conflicts, and moments that made us swoon over the phrase, “As you wish.” Life felt simpler when viewed through the lens of John Hughes’ whimsical storytelling, and it’s hard to deny the devoted following that these films have fostered. Admit it: didn’t you ever fantasize about a romantic gesture like John Cusack’s iconic boom box moment?

As I revisit my favorite ‘80s films with my children, I’ve come to realize that these movies impart valuable lessons that can assist us, as Gen X parents, in navigating the complexities of raising tweens. In fact, they can enhance our parenting skills in meaningful ways. Here are twelve common tween dilemmas paired with ideal ‘80s film recommendations:

1. If your tween faces bullying, “Some Kind of Wonderful” is a must-watch. There’s nothing quite like witnessing the hero triumph in the end—and let’s be honest, who didn’t want those earrings worn by Mary Stuart Masterson?
2. For babysitting advice, “Adventures in Babysitting” is essential viewing. Knowing how to belt out a blues tune could be a game-changer in today’s competitive babysitting landscape.
3. If your teen needs to embrace a more carefree attitude, “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off” will inspire them to have fun—who doesn’t want to indulge in some pancreas-eating adventures?
4. If fitting in is a struggle for your teen, “Can’t Buy Me Love” will show them that sometimes, even the most unexpected heroes can make a difference, and telescopes can be a cool accessory.
5. For those hesitant about college applications, “Animal House” provides a humorous glimpse into Greek life that may spark some motivation to send in those transcripts.
6. To open up discussions about relationships, “Dirty Dancing” provides relatable scenarios. Penny’s situation may be challenging, but it highlights the importance of support and communication.
7. If you’ve been preoccupied with planning one child’s milestone, and neglected another’s special day, “Sixteen Candles” serves as a reminder that love and attention are paramount—after all, Jake Ryan never forgets to show up.
8. If respect for parental figures has waned, “Mr. Mom” illustrates that both parents play crucial roles, reminding tweens of the hard work that goes into family life.
9. For teens rushing to grow up, “Big” reveals that adulthood can be less glamorous than anticipated, aside from the endless supply of silly string.
10. If teaching your teen to drive seems daunting, “License to Drive” might provide some comic relief—it’s a wild ride, after all.
11. If your teen is disappointed about not making the football team, simply say, “Rudy”—that’s all it takes to inspire perseverance.
12. If your teen is anxious about graduation and the future, “St. Elmo’s Fire” will reassure them that lifelong friendships can form in college—and perhaps even spark a new romance.

The insights from ‘80s films are plentiful, and each viewing offers new takeaways for parents. Taking the time to reminisce with these classics not only serves as a nostalgic escape but also equips us with tools to better support our children. And hey, there’s no shame in rocking a vintage jean jacket while you sift through your old VHS collection.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I need to assist my daughter with her history assignment—she’s tackling Medieval history tonight, and it’s quite the challenge!

In summary, ‘80s movies offer valuable lessons that resonate with the challenges faced by today’s tweens and teens. By sharing these films with our children, we foster meaningful conversations and connections, making our parenting journey a little easier.