In 2019, my friend Lily and I took on the role of caregivers for our mother, who had just endured a lengthy hospital stay battling cancer and a severe infection that almost took her life. During her time in rehab, she had to relearn basic skills like walking, eating, and drinking. While the facility provided nursing staff and physical therapists, the majority of the caregiving responsibilities fell on us.
I vividly recall the first time we needed to take her back to her oncologist’s office, located about an hour away and still requiring a wheelchair. Our family lacked an accessible vehicle, and I was at a loss about how to transport her. When I approached the social worker at the facility for help, he informed me that transportation services only operated within county limits and suggested I look online for options.
Feeling overwhelmed doesn’t even begin to describe our experience during those early days. Balancing the care of my mom with my job and family left me utterly drained. And this was all before the onset of COVID-19. Caregivers today are grappling with an entirely different set of challenges. How do they ensure the safety of their loved ones? How can they meet their evolving needs in such uncertain times? If they devote so much energy to caring for others, when can they find time for themselves?
The Reality for Caregivers
Remember the early days of the pandemic when we only ventured out for essential appointments or to pick up medications? Picture doing that for two people—yourself and the person you care for. This scenario is far from isolated; millions of unpaid caregivers are looking after family members, whether they be grandparents, parents, spouses, or children. According to Vox.com, about 47.9 million Americans—nearly 20% of the population—serve as unpaid caregivers.
The toll of caregiving is not just physical; it’s also mentally exhausting. In the early pandemic days, every decision felt like a high-stakes gamble. While some caregivers relied on in-home care services, questions about safety loomed large. Were the physical therapists or nurses visiting from other homes potentially exposing their loved ones to COVID-19?
With so many uncertainties, the idea of continued reliance on outside help became increasingly daunting. Interestingly, of those 47.9 million caregivers, 61% are women—who have been disproportionately affected by the pandemic. The physical demands of caregiving, combined with emotional and mental fatigue, often leave caregivers with little energy for self-care.
For many caregivers, prioritizing mental health takes a backseat to their daily responsibilities. This shouldn’t be the norm, yet it persists. An alarming statistic reveals that nearly half of family caregivers experience psychological distress, which can manifest as anxiety, depression, or even suicidal thoughts.
Supporting Caregivers
Caregivers are not seeking monetary rewards or accolades for their efforts. They may not even express their needs directly. However, let’s be proactive: get vaccinated and wear a mask. These simple actions can significantly help caregivers feel more secure while caring for their loved ones.
If you’ve never been in a caregiving position, it may be hard to grasp the immense responsibility involved. Let’s take steps to support these individuals. It’s time we stop overlooking their struggles and recognize their selfless contributions. If you know a caregiver, consider showing your appreciation through small gestures. Can you help with their children’s transportation to events? Perhaps prepare a meal for them, easing one of their many burdens? At a minimum, please practice safety measures like wearing masks in public and getting vaccinated if you haven’t already.
After all, we’re all in this together.
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Summary
Caregivers are facing unprecedented challenges, especially in a world affected by the pandemic. The emotional and physical toll of caregiving often leaves little room for self-care, particularly among women who make up a significant portion of this group. By taking simple actions like getting vaccinated and supporting caregivers with acts of kindness, we can help ease their burden.
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