Why I Embrace Conversations About Breast Health Without Concern for Your Discomfort

By: Jamie Thompson
Updated: Sep. 13, 2021

I don’t set out to discuss breasts constantly, but my experiences compel me to do so. Topics like mammograms, self-exams, breast implant illness, and cancer statistics slip into my daily chats without me even realizing it, often disregarding the listener’s comfort.

I’ve certainly been advised to tone down the subject of breasts—both subtly and more directly. My response? If you find discussions about breast health uncomfortable, consider how much worse breast cancer is.

You might think it’s only the overly sensitive individuals who shy away from reminders like “feel it on the first” (which encourages self-exams on the first of every month). In reality, many women, including those who identify as progressive, feminist, or body-positive, can become quite uneasy when I mention their “melons.”

When someone faces a traumatic experience, they usually respond in one of two ways: they either openly share their trauma or work hard to hide it, acting as if it never happened. I’m not criticizing those who choose to keep their struggles private; I find it therapeutic to share my story openly.

Being an Enneagram type 8, confrontation comes naturally to me. I’m not going to push anyone in the grocery line to check their breasts, but I have no qualms about sharing my journey with breast cancer, especially if someone comments on my pink-ribbon attire. If the topic arises, I’m ready to share.

My first breast cancer diagnosis came at 35. Before that, I had two benign lumps removed. With “very dense” breast tissue, it was easy for cancer to hide within my breasts. When I discovered a third lump during a self-exam, I quickly consulted my doctor, who arranged my first mammogram and an ultrasound.

Both tests revealed some masses, but nothing alarming. I was told to return in six months for follow-ups. Initially relieved, I soon felt something was off. Trusting my instincts, I sought a local breast surgeon who agreed to perform a biopsy.

My gut feeling was correct. The third lump was indeed cancerous. Initially classified as stage 0 breast cancer, after switching surgeons and undergoing further tests, I had a bilateral direct-to-implant mastectomy. The pathology revealed stage 1 breast cancer.

I thought I had conquered cancer until last fall when I noticed something unusual in my chest wall. After several scans and a biopsy, I was diagnosed again. The past months have been a grueling cycle of surgeries, chemotherapy, radiation, and countless appointments. While I am grateful for a second chance, I feel exhausted and traumatized.

It perplexes me that women can admire attractive celebrities and enjoy near-nude TikToks but recoil at the mention of their breast health. It doesn’t add up to appreciate another’s body while neglecting one’s own.

Preventing cancer is what truly matters. Early detection is crucial. Self-exams, mammograms, and medical check-ups can make all the difference. For those with family histories of cancer, genetic testing can be invaluable in assessing future risks.

If you’re like me, you probably share fun social media posts with friends regularly. However, I prioritize reminding my friends on the first of every month to check their breasts. We can share celebrity gossip and hilarious memes, but we should also care enough to remind each other that one in eight women will face breast cancer in their lifetime.

Most breast cancer patients do not have a family history; many are diagnosed at a young age, long before they’re advised to have annual mammograms. Cancer does not discriminate by age, race, income, or lifestyle. The sooner we recognize something is wrong, the better.

I won’t stop discussing breast health because too few people are willing to do so. If my conversations inspire just one person to perform a self-exam, schedule a mammogram, or pursue genetic testing, then all the awkwardness is worth it. Cancer is a daunting topic, and I know this firsthand. My aim is to help others avoid facing this battle.

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Summary

This article explores the importance of discussing breast health openly, especially in light of personal experiences with breast cancer. The author emphasizes the need for awareness and early detection, encouraging women to prioritize their breast health while challenging societal discomfort around the topic.