Thanksgiving used to be one of my favorite times of the year. I have great memories of gathering at my aunt and uncle’s home in Chicago. We’d feast on a huge, traditional meal complete with an array of pies, followed by some epic Bingo games for fun prizes. It was a blast!
But things have changed. I no longer make that trip, and as I’ve learned more about our nation’s history, I’ve found myself increasingly uneasy about the holiday itself. The traditional narratives around Thanksgiving often gloss over the darker aspects of colonization, and the forced gratitude can feel like a scene straight out of a cheesy Hallmark movie. So, I’m on the lookout for fresh traditions. Maybe you are too?
Here are some non-traditional Thanksgiving ideas that might resonate with you. Instead of feeling stuck in a holiday we don’t fully embrace or skipping it altogether, why not shake things up with something new and fun?
Host a Friendsgiving
Friendsgiving has become a popular alternative, especially for those who can’t be with family or prefer to avoid certain relatives (who wants to hear Uncle Mike’s rants, right?). Invite your friends over for a relaxed meal, either potluck-style or with your own creations. Think of fun activities like charades or even a theme that’s not typically Thanksgiving-related. Just remember to take Covid precautions; outdoor gatherings are ideal if the weather permits. And yes, Bingo remains our family’s favorite game during the holidays—everyone should bring prizes, too!
Volunteer Together
Many communities offer opportunities to lend a helping hand during the holidays. You could serve meals to those in need, organize community events, or even deliver supplies to those who can’t get out. As a family, pick a cause you’re passionate about and dive in. Just keep the photo ops to a minimum; no need for self-glorification while you help others. Afterward, treat yourselves to pizza because who doesn’t love that?
Take a Local Getaway
Traveling far might not be the best option right now, but why not explore your local area? There are tons of fun day trips or nearby overnight stays waiting to be discovered. Kids often find staying at a hotel to be an exciting adventure. Just make sure to check opening hours and prices in advance, especially since some places now require reservations due to ongoing health concerns. If budget is tight, seek out free outdoor activities instead.
Get Outside and Play
With the pandemic, outdoor get-togethers are more appealing than ever. Enjoy free activities like hiking, biking, or playing a game of football or volleyball. You could even set up a beanbag toss in the yard. Bundle up, have an outdoor meal, and finish off the day with s’mores around a fire pit.
Prep for the December Holidays
If Thanksgiving isn’t your family’s jam, consider using the day to kick off the Christmas festivities. Set up your tree, hang up lights, or bake some delicious cookies while blasting holiday tunes. Just remember not to force anyone into activities they dislike. If decorating isn’t your partner’s thing, let them handle the heavy lifting while you and the kids take care of the fun parts.
Create a Unique Thanksgiving Meal
Let’s be honest—sometimes traditional Thanksgiving fare can be bland (green bean casserole, anyone?). This year, we’re trying out new recipes, like a maple-glazed turkey and vegan sides. If you’re feeling adventurous, ditch the traditional meal altogether! One year, we had a taco bar instead of turkey, and it was a hit. Who doesn’t love tacos? Or perhaps a Thanksgiving brunch with mimosas could be your new favorite tradition.
Stay In and Relax
If the thought of heading to a family gathering feels overwhelming, consider a cozy day at home instead. Order pizza, wear your comfy pajamas, and binge-watch movies. We’ve got to let go of the guilt tied to tradition; it’s perfectly okay to just chill out and enjoy time together.
There are plenty of creative ways to celebrate a non-traditional Thanksgiving that could become your family’s new tradition! Whether you dress up for a family gathering, head out for an adventure, or simply enjoy a movie night at home, you’ll find joy in doing what feels right for your family.
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Summary: This Thanksgiving, consider stepping away from traditional celebrations that may no longer resonate with you. Embrace new traditions that reflect your family’s values and preferences, from hosting a Friendsgiving to exploring local attractions or simply staying in and relaxing together. It’s all about creating memories that feel right for you.
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