The holiday season is upon us, and maybe you find yourself dreading that invitation to your cousin’s annual gathering. Maybe you can’t bear another evening at Aunt Linda’s, where the smell of smoke fills the air and conversations inevitably drift towards politics. Whatever your reason for wanting to skip the festivities, it’s time to gracefully decline those invites.
So, how do you say “thanks, but no thanks” without feeling guilty or coming off as rude? Here are some tips to help you navigate the tricky waters of holiday declines.
Skip the Apologies.
You don’t need to apologize for not attending—there’s nothing to apologize for! Saying “sorry” can come off as insincere or awkward. Instead, keep your response straightforward and free of guilt.
No Need for Explanations.
Especially if you’re a people pleaser, it can feel instinctive to provide an explanation for your absence. Remember, you don’t owe anyone a reason. Most people won’t even care why you can’t make it, so keep it simple.
Avoid Dishonesty.
Creating excuses can lead to unnecessary complications. If you claim you’re sick or have car trouble, you might find yourself caught in a web of lies when someone checks your social media. Just be honest and direct.
Honor Your Commitments.
If you usually bring a dish or contribute to a gift exchange, still fulfill those obligations. Maybe you can drop off your famous pies a week early. This way, you won’t leave anyone in a lurch and can avoid any hard feelings.
Don’t Overthink It.
Once you’ve made your decision, stick to it. There’s no need to dwell on your choice or fear how others might react. Spend your time doing something you enjoy, whether that’s finishing your holiday shopping or curling up with a good book.
Stand Firm if Questioned.
If anyone brings up your absence later, don’t backtrack. Simply say, “I couldn’t make it this year. Hope you had fun!” Keep it short and sweet.
Now that you know what to avoid, how do you actually decline an invitation? You could say, “Thanks for the invite, but I can’t make it,” or keep it casual with, “That sounds great, but I have other plans this year.” Just be honest and concise.
The truth is, declining an invitation is often a bigger deal in your head than it needs to be. Remember, the holidays should also be about your own peace and happiness. Pour yourself a glass of something festive and celebrate your ability to set healthy boundaries.
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