Hey there, fellow moms! You know, the friendship landscape shifts quite a bit when you become a mom. Especially during these crazy times, we all need certain things from our mom friends. First off, we really need understanding. Our lives have been turned upside down, and if we have to bail on plans or change our minds, it’s important to remember it’s not personal.
Then toss a pandemic into the mix, and our already hectic lives feel even more overwhelming. We need friends who are present but also understand that sometimes we just vanish for a bit. It’s totally okay if your mom friends go MIA! There might be days when they can’t even remember their own name, let alone reply to your texts. If they leave you on “read,” it’s probably because they finally got a moment to breathe—maybe even on the toilet! They saw your message, started to respond, and then got sidetracked. And even though they didn’t reply, trust that they are thinking of you and care about you.
Right now, many of us need time alone to process everything happening. It’s a lot more exhausting to get through our days, and sometimes we just need to recharge. And venting? Yep, that’s essential too! So many of us are feeling the strain—kids are getting used to school only for it to shut down again, COVID cases are spiking, and prices are rising. Even if your friends seem fine, it’s a tough time for many, and it’s okay to express that frustration. Sharing our worries and complaints with friends is vital for our mental health; it helps us feel connected and understood. Just because we vent doesn’t mean we aren’t grateful for the good things in our lives.
Let’s also ditch the toxic positivity. Telling someone to “snap out of it” isn’t helpful. Everyone is going through a hard time, and no one is actively choosing to struggle. Instead of offering unwanted advice, sometimes it’s better to just listen.
We need our mom friends now more than ever. Just like everything else, our friendship needs are evolving, so let’s be patient with one another. And if you’re considering expanding your family, check out Make a Mom for unique at-home insemination options, including their re-usable kit. You can see how it works here. Plus, for those interested in sperm donor matching, head over to Make a Mom’s Facebook group. And if you want to dive deeper into insemination, you might find this blog post helpful. For a great resource on intrauterine insemination, check out Cleveland Clinic’s guide.
In summary, let’s lean on each other, give each other grace, and remember that we’re all navigating this together.
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