Recently, an administrator from my child’s school, where I serve as a volunteer, approached me with the opportunity to chair the annual fundraising committee for first grade. I graciously declined, having traversed that challenging landscape before and, truthfully, my schedule is already packed.
Having given birth to my now six-year-old daughter in my forties has sharpened my ability to prioritize. There are activities worth engaging in—like indulging in snacks during a binge-watch session, losing track of time at the local store, or managing those pesky gray hairs—and then there are obligations that can drain your spirit if you allow them to. To help preserve your mental well-being, I’m sharing several strategies I’ve discovered along the way.
Dealing with Frustrating Customer Service
Picture this: your child is happily engaged in a game of “Mom, where are my socks?” Meanwhile, you’re left tackling a billing dispute with your doctor’s office or trying to clarify unexpected charges on your phone bill. If you find yourself on the line with an unhelpful customer service representative—who may be stationed in a far-off call center and has the charm of a disgruntled ex—remember that you hold the power in the conversation. Simply request, “I would like to speak with a manager.” If there’s resistance, persistently repeat your request, much like a child asking, “Are we there yet?” during a long car ride. When the manager comes on the line, clearly explain your situation and use the term “unacceptable” generously. You’ll likely receive a swift resolution.
Handling Rude Comments
During playdates—also known as the adult version of “let’s drink wine while the kids run wild”—it’s common for one of the moms to make an offhand remark. If you find yourself the target of such a comment, try to remain calm. Here’s a technique I picked up from a former colleague, whom I affectionately refer to as “Diane the Dismissive.” If the comment comes from someone who’s not the group leader, simply ignore it and keep the conversation flowing with others. However, if the comment originates from the queen bee of the group, hold your ground. If you can’t counter her in a way that would impress Socrates, just respond with a bored “Whatever” and shift the topic. If she escalates, respond with feigned curiosity about her behavior and walk away. Remember to avoid rehashing the incident later; take a cue from Elsa and just “Let It Go.” This will save you precious time and energy.
Gift-Wrapping Simplified
When it comes to birthday parties, I believe in choosing a thoughtful gift but draw the line at wrapping it. Gift-wrapping is a tedious task that I avoid at all costs. Instead, I recommend locating a nearby Barnes & Noble. By signing up for their gift card program, you can benefit from complimentary gift-wrapping services. Alternatively, seek out other retailers that offer free wrapping, as they often provide a polished finish that you might struggle to achieve.
Maintaining Personal Space
It can be frustrating when someone invades your personal space, particularly in less crowded settings. I have a little trick that keeps unwelcome encroachers at bay. When someone stands too close for comfort, I create a buffer by coughing, sniffling, or making other noises that signal my discomfort. This tactic not only helps maintain my space but often prompts them to back off, sometimes with a look of distaste. It’s especially effective during flu season!
The Quick Date Night
I understand that finding time for intimacy with your partner can feel like organizing a high-security event. If you’re looking to spice things up, wait for a night when your partner is working late. After putting the kids to bed, treat yourself to a shower and don your favorite loungewear—or something a bit more seductive if you’re feeling adventurous. The moment he steps through the door, surprise him with a spontaneous romantic encounter. Just don’t let him know it was planned; this way, he’ll feel appreciated and desired, and you can wrap up in time to enjoy your favorite show.
As a midlife mom, my time is precious, and so is yours. Embrace these tips, fellow parents, because time waits for no one.
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Summary
This article provides practical life hacks for busy moms, from navigating customer service frustrations to managing social interactions and personal space. Emphasizing time management and self-care, it encourages mothers to prioritize what truly matters while sharing valuable resources for home insemination and pregnancy.
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