As I navigate the journey into my thirties, I find myself reflecting on the changes my body has undergone. With age has come a wider, flatter backside (perhaps a side effect of blogging rather than just aging) and hands that carry the marks of time. Surprisingly, my breasts have shrunk even more than I thought possible. Grey hairs occasionally make their appearance, and the lines on my face have deepened compared to just a few years ago. After enjoying a generous bust during my breastfeeding years, accepting these changes has been challenging. While I may not turn heads like I used to—unless I accidentally let a curse word slip in a quiet place—I’ve found a new sense of contentment. Despite not being as physically active as I’d prefer, I have grown to appreciate my appearance far more since becoming a mother. Here’s how having kids has positively influenced my body image.
1. Empowerment in Motherhood
During the day, while my partner is at work and I’m home with my two children, I am the tallest, fastest, and strongest person in our household. Transitioning from a person who has often felt weak and small, this newfound sense of superiority feels empowering. Although I might not be the smartest person in the room, I take pride in my ability to keep up with my kids in games of knowledge, like a competitive round of Jeopardy.
2. Embracing My Shape
For years, I battled with my pear-shaped figure. However, watching my beautiful daughter, who mirrors my own body shape, has helped me shed a lifetime of insecurity. If she is perfect as she is, then I must be too. I am created just as I am intended to be—thanks to both nature and the joys of indulgent treats like chocolate and chips.
3. Celebrating My Marks
The reminders of motherhood—scars, stretch marks, and loose skin—are like unique art that tells my personal story. Though they may not fit conventional beauty standards, these marks are a testament to the life I’ve nurtured and should be celebrated.
4. Respecting My Journey
The body that has borne and nurtured life deserves respect and admiration. Even if my appearance has changed, the journey is worth celebrating, even when my post-baby body might resemble that of a retired show dog.
5. The Power of a Haircut
After six years of sporting a ponytail, when I finally treat myself to a nice haircut, I feel revitalized. I walk with confidence, embracing the new look that enhances my spirit. Unlike before motherhood, when a haircut was just a nice touch, now it’s an act of self-care that lifts my mood significantly.
6. Comfort Over Style
Heels have never been my favorite; while they add height, they compromise comfort and stability. Now that my wardrobe revolves around playdates and park outings, those heels have found a permanent home in my closet, where they can stay until a special occasion arises.
7. Sweet Words from My Children
My children often share sweet words of affirmation, calling me “snuggly” and saying I give the best hugs. When I jokingly ask my son what his friends think of me, he candidly replies that every kid views their mom as the best. This honesty fills me with joy, and I can’t help but shower him with affectionate kisses.
8. My Personal Cheerleader
My daughter is my personal cheerleader, offering compliments that boost my self-esteem. “You look beautiful, Mom!” she proclaims, reminding me that I am, in fact, winning at this motherhood game, even if it’s just in my own competition.
9. Celebrity Comparisons
Since my daughter is still young enough to see resemblances everywhere, I strategically leave magazines around featuring celebrities. When she points out the Jennifers (like Garner or Lopez) and connects them to me, it provides an instant boost to my self-image.
10. Surrounded by Love
I am surrounded by love from my children, who embrace my flaws as part of their beloved mom. My partner continues to express admiration, always eager to show affection, which reinforces my confidence.
Despite the physical challenges that motherhood has brought, I have found a deeper appreciation for myself than I ever had before. If you’re interested in more about the journey of motherhood and home insemination, consider visiting this informative resource on pregnancy or check out this post on at-home insemination kits for further insights.
In conclusion, the experience of motherhood has reshaped my body image positively, leading to a more realistic and content view of myself.
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