In recent discussions about forging new friendships among mothers, many have humorously compared the experience to dating. This includes the subtle hints of interest, light-hearted banter designed to avoid coming off as overly serious, and the effort to present oneself as non-judgmental—akin to a guy at a bar assuring others he’s not the “creepy” type.
As mothers navigate the landscape of meeting other moms, it’s crucial to understand what behaviors to avoid when encountering that one mom who seems perfect for you. You know the one: she shares your disdain for the chaos of Target, appreciates the humor in Angry Cat memes, and frequents the same coffee shop near the park where your kids play together. You excitedly extend an invitation for a girls’ night out, only to face the sudden realization—she’s just not that into you.
This scenario mirrors the complexities of dating. Just as one is expected to gracefully move on from romantic rejections, the same applies here: it’s essential to handle the end of a friendship with composure. Here are some pointers on how to cope with a potential friend breakup:
1. Avoid Social Media Stalking
It’s tempting to check repeatedly if your friend request has been acknowledged, but resist the urge. If it hasn’t been accepted, it’s a clear sign—she’s just not that into you.
2. Refrain from Gossiping
Don’t casually discuss her behavior with mutual friends, labeling her as distant or preoccupied. Commenting on her absence from the coffee shop or other venues signals that you’re taking it too personally—she’s just not that into you.
3. Maintain Your Dignity in Public
Don’t fall into the trap of ignoring her at children’s events. If you are visibly avoiding her while engaging with others, it’s obvious to everyone around, including her. Remember, she’s just not that into you.
4. Don’t Take It to Heart
If you spot her getting along with another mom, don’t let jealousy creep in. Perhaps the two of them connect better, or maybe your friendship just wasn’t a perfect fit. The reality is, it’s okay if a potential friend simply isn’t interested.
When I first heard the phrase “she’s just not that into you,” I was taken aback by how someone could easily dismiss a friendship. However, it can be liberating to see that the problem may not lie with you but rather with them. The truth is, she just can’t recognize how amazing you truly are.
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In summary, forming friendships as a mom can sometimes resemble the dating scene, filled with excitement and potential disappointments. Recognizing when a connection isn’t mutual is vital for personal growth and emotional health. Focus on moving forward and seeking out relationships that truly resonate with you.
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