As I prepared to meet a friend for dinner, I whipped up a simple meal of chicken nuggets, steamed broccoli, and apple slices for my kids. My partner was managing the evening at home, and I wanted to keep things straightforward to avoid any pre-bedtime meltdowns. Just as I was about to leave, my 4-year-old son, Jake, mentioned something about chickens, but I didn’t quite catch it. I reminded him to be nice to his little sister and headed out the door.
While at dinner, I received a text that made my heart sink: “Jake has learned that people die. He’s not taking it well.” Our son is particularly sensitive; he’s the type to tear up during the most mundane moments. I knew this was going to be tough, but I trusted my partner, Tom, to manage the situation while I enjoyed my meal.
When I returned home, the kids were already asleep. Tom filled me in on the evening’s events. It turned out Jake’s earlier comment about chickens was linked to his unease regarding the chicken nuggets he was eating. Tom had explained that they were indeed real chickens, which Jake had trouble accepting; he often doesn’t connect the dots between food and its origins.
This time, however, something clicked in his mind. “But why don’t they have feathers?” Jake had asked, leading Tom to explain the process of preparing chicken for cooking. The conversation quickly took a serious turn when Jake asked if all chickens die. Tom confirmed that, yes, they all eventually do.
The conversation escalated when Jake, who has two cats and a dog, asked, “Will my pets die?” It was a heartbreaking moment. Tom answered truthfully, and Jake was understandably upset at the thought of losing his pets, even though he rarely engaged with them. “Do people die too?” he inquired next, and that question hit hard—one we hadn’t anticipated having to answer so soon.
I listened in shock as Tom recounted how Jake expressed his fear of us leaving him one day. I couldn’t help but feel emotional, not just because the concept of mortality is daunting, but also because it marked a significant moment of lost innocence for our son—over chicken nuggets.
Thankfully, Jake didn’t ask what happens after death, a question that would have left us scrambling for an answer. As atheists, we view death as the end, with no afterlife or continuation. While that belief brings its own complexities, we weren’t ready to dive into those depths with our young child.
The next morning, I was apprehensive about Jake’s emotional state, but he surprised me. “Dad told me animals die and people die,” he stated calmly. I asked if he had any questions, to which he innocently inquired, “Do we have a video of the chicken dying?” This unexpected question threw me for a loop, and I quickly realized we were stepping into sensitive territory. I assured him we didn’t have such videos.
“Can we buy the DVD?” he asked, shifting back to his carefree nature. It was a reminder that kids can pivot their focus rapidly, and my worry about his grasp of mortality was alleviated, at least for a moment.
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In summary, discussing death with young children can be a challenging experience, but it’s also an opportunity to foster understanding and empathy. By approaching such topics with care and sensitivity, we can help our children navigate these complex emotions as they grow.
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