As I neared the end of my pregnancy with my daughter, I was convinced I had a clear vision of how my delivery, hospital experience, and early parenting days would unfold. I had two lists in mind: one detailing my hopes and the other reflecting reality. I imagined my water breaking, timing my contractions, and heading to the hospital when they got closer together. I pictured laboring there for a few hours, asking for an epidural, and then spending a couple of hours pushing. I thought we would have a steady stream of visitors at the hospital, and once home, my daughter would peacefully sleep in her bassinet while I navigated breastfeeding with a few minor hiccups. I had everything planned out—at least, that’s what I thought…
Reality, however, was a different story. My doctor suggested an induction, and we were all concerned that I might end up needing a c-section after my blood pressure skyrocketed while I remained at three centimeters dilated for what felt like an eternity. Sure enough, I did ask for that epidural! The hospital visitors were fewer than I expected, and breastfeeding didn’t go as smoothly as I had hoped. We knew our baby was small, but we were unprepared for her to weigh under six pounds, struggle to fit into her newborn clothes, and be too tiny for her car seat. Once we got home, she despised the bassinet! Instead of settling in for quiet days, I found myself craving fresh air, taking frequent walks, and even making trips to the store.
You might assume that after all this, I’d advise expecting mothers to abandon their plans entirely. But that’s not the case! It’s still important to draft a birth plan. Communicate your wishes with your doctor as your due date approaches, and keep the lines of communication open with hospital staff. While much of what I envisioned came to pass, not everything did—and that’s okay. Trust in your chosen medical team during those intense moments, and be prepared to adapt your expectations for life with your little one.
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In summary, creating a birth plan is a valuable exercise, but it’s essential to remain open to changes along the way. The journey to parenthood is unpredictable, but maintaining flexibility will help you navigate this beautiful adventure.
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