By: Clara Jennings
Dear friends who are fortunate enough to still have your mothers,
The experience was akin to a sudden theft; nearly ten months passed between the day she received her diagnosis and the day she departed from our lives. Cancer, in its insidious nature, takes away not only health but also the freedom to live life as we once knew it. One moment we’re sharing dreams and planning for the future, and the next, we’re entrenched in a fierce battle, ultimately bidding farewell.
I never anticipated losing my mom in this manner or so prematurely. It was an experience I was unprepared for, her fate snatching her away before I could fully grasp the gravity of the situation.
Yet, through my faith, I find solace and maintain hope. However, this Mother’s Day is notably different for me; I now celebrate as a mother without my own. I will receive cards and gifts, filled with love, but I cannot reciprocate. I am unable to express my gratitude, despite her flaws, with the same lavish affection I once took for granted. I cannot thank her for the invaluable lessons she imparted on motherhood, both the commendable and the challenging. I cannot articulate the profound influence she had on my identity as a mother, wife, and woman.
So, dear friends who are still blessed with your mothers,
Regardless of how close or distant your relationship may be, I urge you to reach out to your mother this week.
Whether you share a deep bond or feel a gap between you, look her in the eye and convey how much she means to you.
If your relationship has been marked by affection or absence, take a moment to express your appreciation, cherishing the love exchanged through words or a warm embrace.
Whether she has been a guiding light or a lesson in what to avoid, share how much you’ve gained from her experiences.
Even if she has been a near-flawless mother or one who has struggled, her presence still offers a chance for connection and growth.
Call her, hold her close, envelop her in your love, whether it feels effortless or comes with emotional baggage.
If you’ve grown apart, seek reconciliation. If you feel indifferent, strive for compromise. If your lives are busy, dedicate time and attention. If affection feels foreign, step outside of your comfort zone. Offer generous love, even if it’s something you already do.
Last year at this time, I never could have imagined facing Mother’s Day without my mom. Please do not let another moment pass without reaching out to yours.
Wishing you all a heartfelt Mother’s Day. May you find the grace to give and receive abundant love.
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Summary:
This heartfelt message encourages friends who still have their mothers to cherish their relationships, regardless of any challenges. It reflects on the author’s personal loss and urges readers to connect, appreciate, and love their mothers while they have the chance.
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