I recall a poignant moment from my teenage years when my grandfather succumbed to cancer. During that time, friends and family rallied around us, delivering casseroles, pies, and lasagnas. There were warm cookies left on our porch, and neighbors dropped by for coffee and conversation. My mother desperately needed that support, allowing her to navigate her grief without the burden of meal preparation and grocery shopping. It was my first real glimpse of how a community can unite to support someone in distress.
Years later, I found myself doing the same for friends facing hardships—leaving meals on doorsteps for a friend diagnosed with breast cancer or delivering food to a funeral home for another who had lost her father. When someone is in pain, we instinctively come together with comforting food. It’s a beautiful expression of solidarity.
However, this support system often fades when the struggle is addiction.
Opioid addiction is classified as a chronic brain disease, marked by compulsive drug-seeking behavior and continued use despite harmful consequences. Officially recognized as a treatable condition, addiction still carries an immense stigma. Society tends to regard it as a taboo topic, often discussed only in hushed tones behind closed doors.
This stigma is a significant reason families suffering from addiction often remain silent. I remember when my daughter, Mia, went to a treatment center in California just before Labor Day weekend. Our family traditionally gathered for a cottage trip during that time, and I was terrified of explaining her absence. I feared judgment, uncomfortable questions, and, most importantly, I wanted to shield Mia from potential shame. What if she emerged from treatment in a better place? The fear of her being stigmatized paralyzed me.
My partner, Mark, and I felt isolated in our struggle. The weight of such a monumental challenge left us feeling utterly alone. Simple tasks like getting out of bed or preparing meals became monumental. I spent countless hours on the phone with insurance companies, enduring sleepless nights filled with anxiety over Mia’s safety. Every phone call or siren sent my heart racing.
At just 19, Mia entered her first rehabilitation program. I could barely breathe, consumed by despair. This wasn’t happening! The drive home felt interminable, and I had to pull over several times due to my blurred vision from tears. When I finally returned home, I collapsed into bed, overwhelmed by exhaustion from the emotional toll of convincing her to seek help.
No casseroles arrived.
At 20, Mia was admitted to a psychiatric facility, where she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I spent days by her side in the hospital, subsisting on vending machine snacks while my family at home managed with peanut butter and jelly. No comforting meals were left on our porch.
For seven long years, my family fought tirelessly for Mia, extinguishing one fire after another and navigating a series of crises. We traveled across the country in search of the best treatment facilities and doctors, arming ourselves with knowledge and support.
Certain types of pain—like mental health struggles, addiction, miscarriage, infertility, job loss, or the gradual decline of a parent—can often feel invisible or overlooked. The need for communication, empathy, and the comfort of a home-cooked meal may not be as apparent, or even understood, by those around us.
This is not a critique of my loved ones; they simply weren’t aware of our turmoil. I hadn’t shared the extent of our family’s crisis because I was frightened. However, once I began to open up, I found myself surrounded by an incredible support system.
Different crises can be challenging for others to grasp and offer comfort for. Topics that lie outside our comfort zones often lead us to retreat. If you know someone grappling with addiction, a simple gesture—like leaving cookies or a cake on their porch—can be incredibly meaningful. Offers of coffee and conversation might be what they need to feel loved and accepted during their struggle.
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In summary, while the journey through addiction is often lonely and shrouded in stigma, opening up about these struggles can pave the way for support and understanding. Just as we come together for traditional forms of grief, we must learn to extend that compassion to families dealing with addiction.
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