Let’s get real for a second: the pressure to breastfeed can be overwhelming. Every week, countless moms share their personal stories about the highs and lows of nursing, pumping, or juggling both. I recently came across a heartfelt post from Jenna Lane, where she opened up about her own breastfeeding journey. While most comments were supportive and understanding, there were unfortunately some that were judgmental and downright harsh—aimed at both her and other moms who chimed in to share their own experiences.
I totally believe everyone is entitled to their opinion, but we need to draw the line somewhere. There’s no reason to tear someone down for their choice to breastfeed or not. Yes, I think breastfeeding has its benefits, but I would never criticize someone who chooses a different path.
Breastfeeding: A Personal Decision
Breastfeeding is a deeply personal decision, and let’s face it, it’s also a full-time gig. Whether you’re nursing, pumping, or doing a mix of both, you’re basically a milk factory on demand. I have two kids, and I breastfed both of them. It was far from easy—think tears, frustrations, and all the physical and mental exhaustion that comes with it. I managed three months with my first before my supply dwindled, and with my second, I hit the six-month mark, which was a totally different experience.
For my second child, my supply was robust, and I was even able to freeze a good amount. I’d look at my freezer and feel a rush of pride, but I was also nearing my limit. After three months, I switched to exclusively pumping, hoping to ease some of the pressure by letting others bottle-feed her. Spoiler alert: it didn’t work out as I’d hoped.
The Struggles of Pumping
I was clinging on, trying to make it work. Thankfully, my friends and family supported me and reassured me that stopping wouldn’t mean I was failing my baby. But when I hit the six-month mark, I was just done. Done with being tethered to my pump 4-6 times a day. Done with rushing to fit in pumping sessions before I had to get my kids out the door for carpool. Done with taking my pump everywhere, unsure of how long I’d be gone. Done with all the mess that came with it, from clogged ducts to waking up soaked in milk.
I grappled with serious milk guilt. It was mostly because I felt lucky to be able to breastfeed, but every time I read about someone else’s struggles and saw the judgmental comments from “sanctimommies,” it added to my own pressures. But one day, I woke up and thought, “Forget them!” They don’t know my life or my situation. These are my boobs, and I’ll do what feels right for me. My baby has been happy and healthy with six months of breast milk (plus the stash in my freezer). So yeah, to all those judgmental moms out there, I’m done with the guilt.
Finding Freedom
I eventually stopped breastfeeding, ended up with mastitis (of course), but it felt liberating. My baby didn’t even notice a thing changed. No disasters, no chaos—just a mama who can finally catch a little more sleep without being hooked up to a pump all day long.
At the end of the day, a sane mom is a good mom. So to the moms who think they can police breastfeeding choices, please stop. Your rigid standards don’t apply to every mom out there. Let’s lift each other up instead of tearing each other down. The guilt is already tough enough to handle.
Resources for At-Home Insemination
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Conclusion
In summary, breastfeeding can be a challenging journey filled with ups and downs, but every mom’s experience is unique. The key takeaway is to support one another and remember that ultimately, what matters most is the health and happiness of our children and ourselves.
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