Hey there, friends! So, let’s keep it real. This year has been a bit of a wild ride for me, and I’m guessing some of you can relate. My mental health has been like a roller coaster, and honestly, my confidence took a hit when I gained a few pounds. That insecurity seeped into nearly every aspect of my life—my marriage, my job, and even my social life. Yup, it’s been a tough year.
Can I pin some of this on the state of the world? Maybe. But regardless, I’m looking forward to a fresh start on New Year’s Day. I’m optimistic that I’ll finally get my act together. Next year, my marriage will be on point, my mood will be sunny, and I’ll crush it at work. But before I can toss this year in the trash, I’ve realized that even the crappiest moments come with lessons.
You know that saying, “every cloud has a silver lining”? I’ve always loved that one; it gives me hope that I can find purpose in my pain. While I’m still navigating my struggles, I can confidently say I’ve discovered at least one silver lining this past year.
I’ve learned that it’s okay to lean on my friends when I need support. Let me break this down for you. I’ve always considered myself the strong friend—the one who fills up everyone else’s cups. I took pride in being the optimist, the cheerleader, and the emotional rock. Giving support felt amazing, but it also made being a “taker” feel somewhat uncomfortable.
Let’s be real: it’s not always easy to admit when we need help. It can feel humbling, or even shameful. But how can we expect to lift others when we’re feeling drained ourselves? It turns out, friendship is a two-way street. Sometimes it’s tough to say, “Hey, I’m not doing so great. I could really use some support right now.”
This year, I’ve embraced my neediness, and you know what? My friendships have blossomed as a result. True friends don’t expect you to be strong all the time. They love you for who you are, imperfections and all. They cherish the chance to help a friend in need. If they didn’t, would they really be the kind of friends you want in your life?
Here’s a little secret: being needy is temporary. Life has its ups and downs; we all go through phases where we feel more emotionally dependent on our friends. Eventually, we’ll find ourselves back in a place where we can give again. There will come a day when you feel like an entire tree, ready to share your shade with a friend who needs it.
There are seasons when we take and seasons when we give. It’s perfectly okay to be the needy friend. If you’re hesitant, just let your friends in on what you’re feeling. Give them the chance to support you. And remember, the time will come when you can return the favor.
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In summary, it’s totally okay to lean on your friends when you need support. Remember, true friends are there for each other, and being needy doesn’t last forever.
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