Hey there, friends! So, the other day, I found out that my college roommate, Sarah, lost her cat, a quirky black kitten she’d adopted from the shelter. She had named him after a famous literary character, only to find out he was a boy. For weeks, she kept that little secret, brushing off my questions about his anatomy, but when I saw the Facebook post announcing his passing, I was genuinely heartbroken.
It struck me hard, not just because I felt for Sarah, but because it felt like a symbol of how much time has slipped by since we last connected. We haven’t hung out in years, even though we live in the same town. I mean, she was my bridesmaid! Life just has a way of pulling us apart, doesn’t it?
Once you become a parent, it’s so easy to drift from friends. Kids require a ton of attention, and suddenly, you find yourself prioritizing your social circle. You have to consciously choose who to keep close, and maybe unintentionally, you end up letting some relationships fade. It’s not that you don’t care; it’s just that your life gets filled with diaper changes, soccer practices, and baking allergen-free cookies for classroom parties. Finding time for adult friendships becomes a real challenge.
I’ve been lucky to reconnect with a friend from my past, Mike, who recently surfaced after a long absence. He’s a single dad now, juggling work and life with two kids. We’re making it work, grabbing brunch at this fantastic little spot called Lizard’s Thicket or catching up at the farmer’s market. It’s not easy, but we manage to keep our friendship alive. Plus, I’ve got his back for emergency childcare, and he’s taken me up on that offer more than once.
We also have a lovely family we met when I was a new mom. They’re kind, supportive, and genuinely fun to be around. They came to our son’s birthday party, and we make time for each other, despite the craziness of life. It’s so refreshing to have friends who understand the chaos of parenting. You need people who don’t bat an eye at chocolate-covered faces and all the wild antics that come with kids.
When you’re a parent, you have to make choices about who to spend your limited time and energy on. Night outings can be tough, and you’re not always able to coordinate babysitters or find the funds for a night out. Kids have their routines, and real friends understand when things don’t go according to plan. You don’t want to feel like you’re constantly apologizing for your children’s behavior. Instead, you want friends who see the messy, beautiful chaos of parenting as just that—normal.
Before I had kids, I had a big social circle, filled with wild nights and spontaneous gatherings. But things have changed. Some friendships had to take a backseat, while others became more precious. I make an effort to send holiday cards, plan get-togethers, and keep in touch, because at the end of the day, we all crave connection.
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In the end, I do feel a tinge of sadness for the friends I don’t see as often anymore. I miss them, but I’m also grateful for the friendships that have stood the test of time and parenting challenges. It’s all about finding your tribe and making the effort to stay connected, even when life gets busy.
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