You might think I’m a rebel or that I’ve lost my sense of responsibility. You may want to suggest that my children should be taken away from me. You’ll probably roll your eyes at the fact that I’m no longer in my teenage years and should act more maturely. If you live in a state where cannabis isn’t legalized for recreational use (which includes all but a few lucky places like Oregon, Washington, and California), you likely have a distorted perception of what it means to incorporate marijuana into daily life.
At 35, as a mother of two, I use cannabis regularly for my peace of mind, my family’s well-being, my relaxation, my ability to sleep, and just to function better in life. Some might label me a stoner for this, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. I’m merely a mom utilizing the most effective resource at my disposal to ensure I’m as present and functional as I can be for my family.
Let me clarify, I don’t take this stance lightly. Another writer who mentioned that cannabis is a better option than wine for mothers faced backlash with threats of social services involvement. Comments like “#AddictedNation” flooded in. But that’s not accurate.
I’m not addicted to cannabis in the way some might be when it comes to prescription medications. It’s actually easier for me to go without cannabis than to quit the legal pharmaceuticals I rely on. If I stopped those, I’d face severe withdrawal symptoms. Cannabis? I might be a tad irritable but nothing more.
No one raises an eyebrow when mothers share how they need a glass of wine to unwind after a long day. There are countless memes and sitcoms celebrating that notion. However, mention that you enjoy a joint after a hectic day, and suddenly you’re judged harshly.
In reality, cannabis significantly improves my life without the downsides associated with alcohol or many prescription drugs. It addresses my mental health challenges, which not only benefits me but also elevates my family’s quality of life—since we all understand the dangers posed by having a mother who is anxious or depressed.
Another vital element that many mothers crave is sleep, something we often lament losing. Since childhood, I’ve struggled with sleep issues, driven by anxiety. It wasn’t until college that I realized not everyone lay awake for hours. A friend eventually introduced me to cannabis, and after a couple of hits, I found myself peacefully asleep in mere minutes. I still use it to help me sleep soundly and wake up refreshed.
Sure, I still need my morning coffee, but I’m no longer the exhausted parent who stumbles to the kitchen half-awake and struggles to make a simple cup of coffee.
Cannabis has also positively impacted my relationship with my husband. Due to my medications, my libido is often non-existent. But with the right strain of cannabis, I can transition from feeling like a stone to being engaged and intimate in moments. This connection is vital for our marriage, allowing us to bond and enjoy each other’s company after long days filled with responsibilities.
Additionally, I find myself more relaxed, which naturally makes me a better parent. I don’t smoke around my children or during the day, but using cannabis occasionally helps my family dynamics run smoothly. I no longer get upset over spilled cereal or misplaced shoes. Like the saying goes, “If Mama Ain’t Happy, Ain’t Nobody Happy.”
The landscape is shifting. Recreational cannabis use is now legal in several states and D.C., while more states are decriminalizing it or introducing medical marijuana laws. The day is nearing when people will recognize my choice as a responsible one for my family, as long as I’m not driving under the influence—which I never do.
Until that day arrives, I’ll continue to enjoy cannabis occasionally, enhancing my quality of life and, in turn, that of my family and kids. Because whether it’s legal or not, my priority remains ensuring what’s best for my children, and cannabis truly makes me a better mom.
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In summary, cannabis has become an integral part of my self-care routine, allowing me to be more present and engaged as a parent while navigating the challenges of motherhood.
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