If one more person asks me if my baby has arrived yet, I might just lose it. Okay, maybe I won’t actually punch anyone, but seriously, can we stop? Texts and calls are a little less annoying since I’ve told everyone I’d keep them posted, but face-to-face inquiries? Those are the worst. I want to respond with something like, “Are you really that clueless?” I mean, looking at my gigantic 41-week belly should be a pretty clear indicator that the baby isn’t here yet!
And then there’s the classic, “How are you feeling?” How do you think I’m feeling?! I’m massive, uncomfortable, sleep-deprived, and dealing with heartburn that feels like a volcanic eruption. I’m just itching to get this baby out!
To make matters worse, people love to share their “wisdom” on how to naturally induce labor, as if I haven’t already tried everything in the book. Yes, I’m aware of the spicy food, walking, and, ahem, intimate activities. I remain skeptical about these old wives’ tales, especially since they didn’t work in my previous pregnancies, but I still entertain the idea that maybe, just maybe, this time will be different.
In case you’re wondering, my kitchen resembles a hot sauce factory. I’ve been walking around the zoo and the mall every day for the past two weeks. And yes, I’ve managed to fit in some quality time with my husband because, well, time is limited!
Being overdue is disheartening, and it’s leaving me feeling like the most miserable pregnant person ever. I know it’s just my sensitivity talking, and people mean well, but I’m just done with the questions. More than frustration, I’m heartbroken that I’m not holding my little one yet. My due date has come and gone, and here I am—still pregnant.
I’ve heard it time and again: “Babies come when they’re ready.” Every time, I want to tell the person to be quiet. This is my third pregnancy, and once again, I find myself in the dismay of waiting longer than expected. I had built up my hopes, only to feel the letdown of not yet snuggling my long-awaited bundle of joy.
As the days approached my due date, my anticipation was palpable. I would wake up every day during week 39, convinced that today would finally be the day. Yet each day passed without the arrival of my baby, leaving me feeling increasingly discouraged.
My doctor’s visits haven’t offered much reassurance either. At 40 weeks, I was barely 1 cm dilated and only 20% effaced. Not exactly the news I was hoping for. Yes, I know that every pregnancy is unique and dilation rates vary, but it doesn’t help my anxiety.
Due dates are, at best, rough estimates. They’re calculated by adding 280 days to the first day of your last menstrual cycle, but in my case, with breastfeeding and two toddlers at home, I can barely remember what I had for breakfast, let alone when my last period happened! The conception date is also another factor for estimating due dates, but that’s a bit fuzzy too when you’re juggling so much chaos.
Even with medical technology, due dates remain educated guesses. Only about 4% of pregnancies result in delivery on the actual due date. With all this uncertainty, how can anyone place so much importance on it? Yet, here I am, feeling let down as my previous pregnancies went exactly three days over. Why would this one be any different?
Some may say a few more days is nothing compared to the 40 weeks already spent, but after your due date passes, every minute feels like an eternity. I keep telling myself that pregnancy won’t last forever. Ultimately, the health of both me and my baby is what truly matters. Soon, I’ll be meeting my little one and holding them in my arms, and one day, the due date will fade from memory, replaced by the joyous birthdate of my third child.
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Summary:
Experiencing life past your due date can be frustrating and disheartening. Despite well-meaning questions and advice from others, it’s essential to focus on the health of both you and your baby. Remember that due dates are not guarantees, and soon, the anticipation will give way to the joy of meeting your little one.
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